so it only does it when it gets in about the 40s but the relay will click (I think its the fuel pump relay from what pics I could fine of the relay center) and I hear the fuel pump running kinda loudly but no louder then it always does and it will just crank and crank wont start and if I wait till up in the day when it has warmed up some it starts just fine ? any help much appreciated

So, is the problem the clicking relay, or the car won't start and if you are asking if the clicking relay is related? If you think the problem has something to do with the fuel pump check the fuel pressure.

If you don't have a fuel gage, try spraying carb cleaner into the intake and see if it will start and run as long as you spray....

Also try disconnecting the MAF sensor, before starting....