Yeah...

You didn't go. You had reasons that affected you enough to make it very difficult, if not an impossibility, whether physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual. She is a friend. A friend that has been very close in the past, and should understand you quite well, barring any changes you have made since college, and thereafter.

Point is, a true friend respects that. Sure, there may be some regrets by both parties that you were not present. But how many moments in her life were you there for? Do you truly expect to be at every one of them? What about your other friends? You going to be at every one of their moments as well? That'* a basic fact that friends understand about each other.

And it reciprocates. She may have already missed one of your moments...

Thanks James

You know, I was the one the told her to make a choice...almost 3 years ago now, we had gotten to close for comfort.

I told her you gotta chose, him or me, she made the decision (albeit the right one, now that I think about it...) and chose him.

And now she is his wife...

I don't know if things will be cool with us, but time will tell...

oh btw...is it weird to go to a wedding alone? Its one of those really "couply" kinda things, maybe moreso then a prom or a grad celebration.

Geez, I could just imagine sitting at a table with 5 couples and....me

honestly, I think you just need to decide what to do, go through with it and move on.

I hate to see someone beat themselves up like you are :?

alright alright I'm done...

this admin will shut up now

Hey, vent here whenever you want...we're like an extended family type thing...hope you feel better soon Jim!!!

GROUP HUG!!!!!!!!!!!!

--Christine

Jim- going to a wedding alone isn't bad. It is all what you make it. I went to a New Year'* Eve party with my best friend and we were the only 2 single women there but I managed to find the only single male there and got to get my New Years kiss after all. You might have met some really nice single ladies at the wedding. As far as she is concerned: She should understand that there were many factors as to why you didn't show. If she has a problem with it - oh well. To thine own self be true! TrueWildman has the right idea. A giftcard at Ikea and a nice card is a great idea.

All you need to do is remember that you are a great guy and have style and class!

Enough said!!!

Sorry, I didn't mean it that way...I don't mind listening to you vent and offering advice, I didn't mean shut up, so sorry if you took it that way.

Now I feel like a big meanie! :?

Its fine Jeanie....

I made up my mind, and I appreciate you speaking yours

ok, just want to make sure i'm not making enemies on the forums