How about going over there and seeing someone has created a user name Tamaras_Stalker and posted a disgusting video and saying it was me? does THAT count for personally insulting? does THAT meet your understanding? what about the general aura and poor community of the board? does THAT meet your understanding? how about them having 5 pages of calling some poor guy who posted his picture a ***, a homo, and every other name? does THAT meet your understanding?
how about an example of what never to be? does THAT meet your understanding?

I hope so because i wouldn't want to delete this post just because one person didn't understand it.

????
I thought she was saying I’v been to this club and they are rude, say bad things, and generally they think they are all bad because they have a 3.8L’*. Then she placed a judgment like they do, stating:

It just didn’t seem like Tamara. I mean she was with nicer words doing the same thing she was complaining about.

So I am still confused about the need??
I understand the frustration of watching foolish people being foolish but I also wondered if there was more to it. You know certain people oh her in the club.

I personally have placed judgment on alot of situations but in most cases it is in reaction to being attacked.

Now the next comment you made was also interesting.

I’m not challenging her right and or motives I was mentioning the fact that attacking other forums is silly and I was interested in her "goal?". Warning? Go there and tell them how it is? Do what they do and hack on them on this site?

Never NEVER did I ever say Tamara has to ask before posting something. LOL so are you trying to make problems you also mentioned flame wars??? Are you an instigator???


If I tell you the sun rises every morning and then tell you the details what is your comment going to be? So I asked what the goal of the comment was. Why mention it? I also was very careful to mention this was not an attack on Tamara. LOL now comes the fun... why did you respond to what was a request of information for Tamara?

Why did you make the comments you did?

This is not a judgment just a question. Not a flame war. LOL


P.*. I am also from the great White North.

Ty

That’* exactly what I was interested in.
hmmm do you want help with these people?
Ty

What sort of help?
I mean it'* pretty bad when even two of our own members (Skza, and, of course, Boseman) were rolling in their own sh*t over it...
I didnt find it to be funny at all. :?

Young guys tend to poke fun and gang up like dogs. But I have ways to help. It’* really important that people learn how to deal with such people when communicating and sharing a forum with them. So privately if you want to talk I am willing to help that way. I don’t plan to go hack on anyone but I have a great understanding of behaviors. It’* my day job. See I knew there was more to this.


Ty

No not really i would have posted this if they didn't do the video anyway, just for what they did to that poor guy. Regardless though i don't need help with dealing with them. I'm just not going back there. There is no useful info for me there and i am not playing into mind games.
thanks anyway.

Ty, how about saying "Hey Tamara, how come you hate these guys so much? Did someone do something to you over there?" Simple and to the point, without sounding like you're trying to get inside her mind like a psychologist. This is a bulletin board, not a doctor'* office couch.
I just took issue with the way you said it, that'* all. Why beat around the bush? It just sounded a little....accusatory, that'* all. She obviously had a reason to start this thread.

In any case, I don't get up on my soapbox much, so - while I don't insinuate or assume that the women here need extra defending - it just sounded rude to me.
That'* why I jumped in and added my two cents.
It'* not a personal attack against you, definitely, since I don't know you from Adam.

But I'll shut up now and let Tamara speak for herself - she'* a big girl.

My request was vague only because I was trying to make sure I didn’t assume where she was coming from. Assumption as some learn the hard way is not a good way to make choices. I understood your reason but it was my assuming and now you have confirmed that it was to defend a friend. A noble cause. I never said it was a doctor’* office did I?? I mentioned my day job was working with behaviors. For all you know I could be a security guard. Careful with the assumptions they can get you in a real pickle at times.

Also I am far from perfect and I have been a hypocrite in the past and I am sure some time in the future I will again.

So the question "why" forces us to be accountable for our actions or go away. So if you look deep my response was the answer to Tamara'* problem.
Actually I think Tamara showed her understanding of what I said right away and then I showed my intention once I was sure exactly what she was talking about.

I have a lot to do so hope this cleared up my intentions and Tamara I hope you are able to find a solution to your dilemma with the moron messing with you. As for the guy who is being harassed he needs to find people who appreciate him for who he is and maybe be careful of whom he shares with in a group like the GP forums. He can get his picture taken off the club and get protection from the club if he wants. If not tell him to contact me because I would love to help him make some money off these silly people.

Sorry it became confusing so fast.

Ty

The comment about the doctor'* office went along with the psychiatrist comment, I wasn't assuming anything about you or whatever it is you do. Actually I hadn't even read your other post explaining about how you work with behaviors before I posted, so in view of YOUR assumption that I was assuming, I'll only say that I agree with your view on assumptions....

And as for Tamara....well, boys will be boys and you can only hope that they grow up someday. Maybe SOME of them will grow up and buy Bonnevilles when they get older!

We all want to help, I guess some of us are just a little bit more cerebral than others.
"I'm just a soul whose intentions are good!
Oh Lord, please don't let me be misunderstood....."