Well, I'm getting married in less than 30 days and last night was the third time in only a couple of months that I'v had the same dream. While not exactly the same as in a repeat of Fraiser, it always has the same results:

Before the ceremony it seems like there is so much time to kill but as we debate on what to do to fill up some time we find ourselves seriously rushing to actually get married. The actuall ceremony and reception is somewhat of a blurr but after all is said and done, I realize that we don't have rings on. Come to think of it, I can't even remember the ring exchange as being part on the ceremony.

So this is the reoccurrin theme: Time to kill, rushing around and no rings.

Now I'm thirty something and have never been maried. Doreen is 30 and hasn't either. We've been together for roughly six years now and have purchased our first house. The relationship is good with the exception lately ironically due to stress form the wedding plans. I don't feel rushed as we have been engaged for over 2 years and I bought the ring without her knoledge.

Just have to wonder what is going on in this cranium of mine.

Pre wedding jitters, don't sweat it. If you can survive making the arrangments to get married and buying a house the rest is a peice of cake! Everything will be fine it is just a major step for you both and imagine how she is feeling because she is wanting this to be the most special day of her life. She is probably stressing moreso on the inside than what you are actually seeing. Once all is said and done I am sure you will live happily ever after.

Just take deep breaths and remember that you love her and she loves you.

OOOOO! I love dream psychology!

*consults book*

I'm sure that SSE14U24ME'* take on it is pretty on target. I think this one is what it is, if you know what I mean. You're just nervous about the big day.

But I always like to look a little harder to see if there isn't something else- another facet of your problem...

After thinking about it for a while (and consulting the books) I can gather a few things about your situation.

First of all, the fact that you are initially bored and looking for things to do to fill your time symbolizes that, inherently, you are positive that you want to be with your future wife. It'* not boredom or complacency- it'* simply that you are comfortable where you're at. Whether you doubt it at times, or panick a little, rest assured that you are ready.

Now the rushing part... I have a couple takes on this. On one hand, I think primarily this has to do with your friends and family. Perhaps you feel a little guilty for dragging this out, or taking so long to get married. Taking it slow is smart- but perhaps there were people in your lives that didn't think that way and this is your way of compensating for their impatience in your dream.

Here'* another take- could it be that, somewhere inside, you are frightened that at the last minute, something will occur to totally pull the rug out from underneath your "readiness"? The fact that you are both rushing around indicates to me that you may have a preceding "Murphy'* Law" experience- (or a string of them). If you happen to be prone to that type of thing, you may be rushing in your dream to avoid it, or you may be rushing to get out of it.

The rings... Since most every image in a dream is a metaphorical one, you have to think about what the rings symbolize. They symbolize the tangible proof that you are bound to one another. This is the outward icon that everyone recognizes- this is the proof. Again, I'm going to have to bring the friends and family into this. Do you feel that maybe you will not live up to the expectations of either your family or hers? Perhaps you've said to yourself a couple times, "I wish we could just be married and not have to go through all of this show." I really don't think the forgetting of the rings has anything to do with you dropping the ball on the wedding day- I think it represents a hidden fear of not living up to expectations.

Of course all of this could be complete bullcrap. But I always like to try to think outside the box on these And I'm pretty new at this, so let me know if I suck or if I may have helped a little.

You guys are gonna be fine, btw. In my opinion- your dream is healthy and indicates that you are the type that will give 100%.

I'm getting married in July, but no jitters yet.

My recurring dream is that I have to back to high school to take some more classes. Only, I don't go very often. When I do, I can't remember my class schedule, or locker combo. I'm always afraid I've missed a test or something. Other than that, there is always different stuff going on, pep rallies, lunch, baseball practice, etc.

*Gets up from the leather couch*

I feel much better, Doc.

You have helped. I can agree with you on most points of your analysis. I'm not too sure of the "expectations" part though. I have developed a very good rapport with her family and pride myself on being a face-value person. What you see is what you get. So I guess their expectations of me are the same as mine our for myself: stay happy and healthy together.

I definately agree with the "without all of this show" part. Geeeeze this is expensive. Her parents are kicking in quite a chunk though and we are greatful but it'* still going cost quite a bit. I guess I'm more comfortable with the simpler things. My wife-to-be, the cats, our health and of course...the Bonnie.

John, I know exactly how you feel with that locker combo thing

Well, glad I could help a little bit. I suppose I need a little more practice though.

Hey- maybe I should start a new thread for dream psychology so that I can practice. LOL!!

If you did, I think it might be bigger than the "Is it possible to clear the corners on our generation Bonnie” thread. I think some of us have some issues that need to be resolved.