Talking about it would be my advice (albeit as unqualified as it is)...so here wishing you luck.

Oy, I've dated those, and I'm sorry Good luck with the talk

--Christine :?

Fine dont take my advice. No but really, it sounds like she wants way too much of your time. Already seems like you spend too much time with her as it is, I mean serieously half the paycheck, leave your friends house to go to hers. My cousin is the same way with his girlfriend, we could have something planned and in the middle of it he gets a phone call and just leaves. Im not one to usually say this, but thats just ******* rude. My cousin has already lost a few friends because of that, and if he wasnt my cousin Id wouldnt talk to him any longer ether. So the best advice I can give you, talk to her and things dont gix ... well, you asid it ...

Evey relationship is give and take. It all boils down to how much are you willing to give without return? How little are you willing to take? How much is she capable of giving vs. how much she takes? Draw some lines, make them known.

If either party cannot keep from crossing those lines, it'* not going to be pretty if you try to stick with it.

Adding on to this, I have lost friends in the same way. Their significant others are too important to them, so they won't pay attention to anything else. Eventually they lose everything.

If you feel like you are too smothered by her, then talk to her about it. If she doesn't agree with how you feel, then ... well, its tough to say, but that relationship may not be right for the two of you.

I haven't experienced a relationship like that, but I have seen many of my friends (guys and girls) go through it, and it doesn't turn out pretty.

Do what you think is right.

My buddy Matt has a girl that takes up waaaay too much of his time... I haven't seen him in almost three weeks, and he lives less than three miles away. It might be fine if she was atleast cool, But she'* dissed my car. That and somehow he went from trying to get work at Cooper Tire (About the highest paying jobs in the area), to being happy working 15ish hrs a week, for minimum pay. Just to be with her more.

Remember, It'* not what you know, It'* who you know. And pissing off alot of people just for one is a bad idea.

You've dated needy women?

On a serious note. Communication and the ability to make light of situations will keep your relationship rock solid. If she is unwilling or unable to listen or communicate effectively take a break and go fishing...there are always other fish in the sea.

i gotta thank everyone for their great responsees. i havent talked to her yet. im scared. fact is i love her. i know alot of you prbably dont believe that, but i do. and thats what counts. i dont want to leave her, and half the time i leave my friends houses becuase i feel bad that im not with her.

If it'* a definitive long term thing you have plenty of time. You can't give everything to anyone at your age, i sure as hell can't either. It'* messed me up before, ask your friends what you should do, tell them you're sorry (if you are).

But is it a coincidence that when i've been single the longest since middle school, that i was able to afford a car, and play with it?

I loved my ex FIANCE. But the fact of the matter is, when he left, he took EVERYTHING with him. He cost me my friends, a HELL of a lot of my stuff, and money.

I spent too much time with him, and not enough time with myself, my interests, and, most importantly, my friends. I thought he was all I needed. I was wrong.

Just my side of the story...again, it'* up to you. Just remember, we're young, and your first love probably won't be your last.

--Christine :?