how young is to young..
04-19-2007, 11:50 PM
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Originally Posted by windshield_time
I live in Ny. My brother in law hit a girl crossing the street and he still lived at home at 19. My father in law was sued. My father in law had to get his own lawyer his son had to get one too. The son had nothing so suing the dad was the most profitable option. My father in law won, she was drunk and j-walking.
You might want to look that up. At least here in Ny you can be held financially responsible for the debts and actions of you under 21 child.
You might want to look that up. At least here in Ny you can be held financially responsible for the debts and actions of you under 21 child.
04-19-2007, 11:58 PM
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Originally Posted by GoldenBullet
Originally Posted by Gumball
real simple. If you have to ask, She is to young.
j/k!
you saw the poll
04-20-2007, 12:02 AM
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Originally Posted by windshield_time
You might want to look that up. At least here in Ny you can be held financially responsible for the debts and actions of you under 21 child.
In Ohio, it'* cut and dry, you're eighteen, you're an adult in every way, except that you can't buy alcohol or handguns. You get in trouble, it'* your problem, and your'* alone.
04-20-2007, 01:32 AM
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It'* not a NY thing, it'* a stupidity thing. That case has nothing to do with "legality". The fact of the matter is, you can sue anyone for any reason. It doesn't mean you'll win, it just means you can. I could sue someone just because I didn't like their hairstyle, ain't that a crock? Obviously the woman was after money, so she saw that the kid was still a dependant and tried to claim suit on the father for whatever BS reason she came up with. It'* a sad, sad world...
But to respond to the question at hand... I'm 24, and my girlfriend is 17. Before we go on, yes, 17 is the legal age in Texas, so don't hound me, lol. What'* worse, I am a martial arts instructor, and this person was/is one of my students. I had known her for a long time before anything even popped into either one of our heads about each other. I had gotten to know her parents really well, and when we decided to make something of it, I came right out and discussed it with her parents. I talked to them about everything that I had as far as intentions, and she talked about hers. They weren't thrilled at all, but they came to accept me because they knew and TRUSTED me.
Maturity is a HUGE issue with relationships, especially those of this nature. I had broken up with a girlfriend of over 3-4 years cause she was a complete idiot, quite psycho, and acted like she was 12 (It was a "what-was-I-thinking?!" type relationship end). She was 23! However, the girl I'm with now has her own goals laid out ahead of her, knows what she wants out of life, and is probably more mature than I am, lol. She knows that her wants may change in the future, and we're able to accept and deal with that.
Sorry for the long story, but all in all, age is just a number... It'* who the people are, where they are in life, and what they want out of this time we have on this rock that will ultimately determine the outcome. If her parents love her (probably a given), they will always want what'* best for her, and no matter what is best for her, they will probably scrutinize about it until they are sure it IS.
Just my thoughts! ^_^
But to respond to the question at hand... I'm 24, and my girlfriend is 17. Before we go on, yes, 17 is the legal age in Texas, so don't hound me, lol. What'* worse, I am a martial arts instructor, and this person was/is one of my students. I had known her for a long time before anything even popped into either one of our heads about each other. I had gotten to know her parents really well, and when we decided to make something of it, I came right out and discussed it with her parents. I talked to them about everything that I had as far as intentions, and she talked about hers. They weren't thrilled at all, but they came to accept me because they knew and TRUSTED me.
Maturity is a HUGE issue with relationships, especially those of this nature. I had broken up with a girlfriend of over 3-4 years cause she was a complete idiot, quite psycho, and acted like she was 12 (It was a "what-was-I-thinking?!" type relationship end). She was 23! However, the girl I'm with now has her own goals laid out ahead of her, knows what she wants out of life, and is probably more mature than I am, lol. She knows that her wants may change in the future, and we're able to accept and deal with that.
Sorry for the long story, but all in all, age is just a number... It'* who the people are, where they are in life, and what they want out of this time we have on this rock that will ultimately determine the outcome. If her parents love her (probably a given), they will always want what'* best for her, and no matter what is best for her, they will probably scrutinize about it until they are sure it IS.
Just my thoughts! ^_^
04-20-2007, 07:25 AM
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Ummm. I am going to go out on a Huge limb here...I think that women tend to be MORE mature than men. (in the same age group that is) Maybe that is a PA thing :?:
Sure, eighteen is YOUNG and she will probably change over the next few years, especially being in college.
I think if you go into it with no concrete goals of making a long term relationship, but just date and see how things go, it should be fine. The major issues would be to let her experience life and DO NOT attempt to control her, and do not try to force her into something too serious too soon. (Not that I am saying you would, just saying).
As fas as the parents, of course they will freak ( I have 2 daughters) and I would too.
But, in time, if you treat her well, the parents will probably come around.
Sure, eighteen is YOUNG and she will probably change over the next few years, especially being in college.
I think if you go into it with no concrete goals of making a long term relationship, but just date and see how things go, it should be fine. The major issues would be to let her experience life and DO NOT attempt to control her, and do not try to force her into something too serious too soon. (Not that I am saying you would, just saying).
As fas as the parents, of course they will freak ( I have 2 daughters) and I would too.
But, in time, if you treat her well, the parents will probably come around.
04-20-2007, 07:32 AM
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This is a touchy situation...
If it were my daughter IT wouldnt be happening. But heres the double standard If she was 26 and the guy 18-19 it wouldnt be a problem. When i was 19 I went out with a 27 year old girl. My last relationship there was a 11 year difference again she was older. It might take some time to convince her parents that this is for both of you and hey you never know it might be something she is doing just to get at her parents.
Just make sure you treat her right and do no wrong (Don't get her pregnant) that way her parents might back off a little.
If it were my daughter IT wouldnt be happening. But heres the double standard If she was 26 and the guy 18-19 it wouldnt be a problem. When i was 19 I went out with a 27 year old girl. My last relationship there was a 11 year difference again she was older. It might take some time to convince her parents that this is for both of you and hey you never know it might be something she is doing just to get at her parents.
Just make sure you treat her right and do no wrong (Don't get her pregnant) that way her parents might back off a little.
04-20-2007, 08:25 AM
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A lot of these posts gave coments and views reflecting the 18 year old teenager, when I posted earlier I was under the impression that the only problem was with the parents. That'* why I gave there point of view, being a parent with teenage kids may help in relating to this situation. From a teenage stand point in my opinion 7 times out of 10 they usually don't see a problem, but then again when I was a teenager, I didn't think loooong term.
