This is just a note that if you don't have one, you may wish to think about it.

My wife has an Aunt that is in ICU. As I understand it she is technically dead already but for the machines keeping her alive. There is no brain activity I'm told but her son refuses to give the DR'* permission to 'unplug' her saying there is a living will (that no one, including her other children, has seen or heard of before and he is unable to produce so far). My wife says they are giving him until Monday to produce or the machines will be turned off. This whole situation has set my wifes family in an uproar and I could see my small family in a simular situation should one of us be in ICU too.

My wife is even a bit upset at me for not going to see her and I can't seem to get her to understand that seeing her Aunt wouldn't be any different than seeing the guy in the room next door. I've never met him before either and I have no desire to watch 'Death'. I'll see it first hand all too soon.

I'll be getting 'something' setup for myself soon. I doubt it will be a Health Care Proxy since I don't want someone changing their mind about what I wish done and probably go with a Living Will.

Here we call a "Living Will" a "Personal Directive". This is something that EVERYONE should have. Life can change in a split second and ultimately the individual involved should have a document in place outlining his/her wishes should they not be able to make them known in an emergency. Furthermore, it is encouraged that the content of such a document be discussed (at least to some extent) with family so there are no surprises if it is ever brought forward.

Something that most people forget is to have a copy at home to provide EMS should the need arise. Checking local laws is recommended here. Where I work, we are obligated to provide complete resuscitation measures unless a written and valid document can be produced when we walk through the door. Many chronically ill patients say "They have it on file at the hospital", which (atleast for EMS here) means nothing in an out-of-hospital environment.

Yup, Advanced DIrectives here...living wills that is.
I draw them up all of the time at work. Takes no time at a ll and we usually charge less than $100.
On that note, I don't have one yet though

Honestly, everyone should have a Will, Living Will, and Power of Attorney.
It is the easiest way to ensure things go teh way you would want them to, and it makes it much easier for you family.