Ok When you have dated a girl for 4 1/2 months and she breaks up with you do you get all upset and cry and beg her not to break up with you? :?

if i knew, I would tell you. I am guessing he didnt do either of the above. If he hasnt tried to get you back in a day or two, move on. (i wouldnt jump on my advice though. let others chime in)

After I broke off with a girl I dated for 8 months. We split because of college. Yes I cried.

Currently I consider it one of the worst decisions of my life.

no.
I tell her that if that what she wants its ok, but its definitely not what I want.
Then I tell all my friends that know her friends to tell her firends that I'm not eating, not sleeping, called in sick to work, very depressed, crying, etc... All because of her.
Then when she comes back, and she will, then you dump her and tell her she was right, whatever the reason was.

Well it worked when I was young.

Popa Tim

Here'* the story...our "relationship" has been based on a lie. He has lied to me about stuff on his credit report (we were tryin to get a house) so we couldnt get a house because he has a bankruptcy and 3 car repo'*. So Then I find this phone number on his cell and its a girl when I call...he'* been in contact with his ex because he owes her $1100. She told me he told her I knew about her...He NEVER told me....then some girl Im'd him on yahoo and asked to meet up with him.....now he cant stop spending money when he says he has been saving it to get a house....

I'm tryin to break up with him and I've told him that I dont wanna be with him and I'm tired of giving him chances and all he does is cry and get upset and beg me not to leave him and he still thinks we are together.....

I am so tired of this!

I guess it all depends on how attached you become to the person. I just came out of a six-month relationship and it hurt quite a lot when the dust settled. Kind of in the null void right now of missing the old days dearly, yet wanting (and currently) moving on...

my best advice is to take action, not make threats. He will continue to do these bad habits if there is no consequence. If he really loves you, he will change, and try to come back to you.

If I were in your shoes, the other would come home to their stuff out on the driveway/ front yard. That is not the kind of person you want to be with.

Many people made many good points here. Crying once its over is one thing. Throwing what sounds like a 3 year old tantrum is something completely different. 4.5 months is nothing compared to the rest of your life. Any/Everyone deserves better than what you described.

relationships are built on trust. If you cant trust each other you have nothing.