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Old 08-05-2006, 12:41 PM   #21
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Eric, Eric, oooo Eric~ you and girls. Jeeeez. You said you locked up your brakes @ 35MPH , then say you rolled in @5-10MPH.?? Are you confused or did you misconstrue your sentences. If this is a tit for tat and if so you have done anything to retaliate such as use your car to vent then or in the past, (you say you have already been wrote up and I assume they made you sign and accept this write up) ...Then a lawsuit wont work.( When this first started you should have asked for a meeting with management immediately) Also I know that you are a minor so the lawsuit (if warranted) would have to be initiated by your parents and a retainer most likely paid up front. ( Since it isnt like sexually harrasment or something you could prove caused great mental anguish) Be prepared for the Company'* lawyers to use anything and everything (all flavored up) against you. .As well, calling someone stupid or fat or stinky etc. is a fact of life (however ignorant) and not the caliper of an offense that would get you anywhere with money etc. And with a write up already done and now this, a case would be very weak at best.

This said, learn to reframe things, think before you act or speak.. There are many ways to get back . When she calls you fat, tell her your sorry her life is such she has nothing more to do, and how unfortunate it is she feels good about amplifying others misgivings. And dont let her or others know something said bothers you in the least. Although I worked off my weight problem (Army-costruction work), I was a very chubby kid_ but played to it with humor and it was never a problem with being accepted or getting girlfriends. Actually it was quite the opposite. Another ploy is to distract the negative attention back at her.. like say calmly for instance "WOW... are those pimples surfacing on your nose, or jeeez did you use deodorant this morning" and walk away. Use simple tactics that arent sexually or physically repugnant to make her avoid you rather than intimidate you.

Now get on with your life, put some humor in your being, be pleasant to new aquaintances and stop breathing down girls necks when you meet them. Patience, compassion, and relating to a girls interests work the best. Getting them to trust you and making them laff will get you more than playing on their sympathy , or trying the macho routine. That will be $75.00 please, take 3 beers, breathe, and suck it up and move on. You were looking for a good job when ya got that one and sounds like you still in the same boat as before you started. Jobs are a dime a dozen. Doesnt take alot of effort to start applying elsewhere and get out of someplace that is obviously bothering you. The best time to get a new job is while you still have one.
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that is correct the Employment Laws are in place for BOTH Male and Femal....its your RIGHT to file if you are being discriminated for any reason
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Don't let her nor the manager that heard her talk to you like that get away with it. I would contact the district manager or whoever is higher up than them in your store. I would threaten a lawsuit for slander & libel. She has slandered your good name and should be held accountable. The manager that heard it should have intervened and by not doing so messed up!! I sued Burger King when I was 15 years old and hired an attorney. He just had to get my parents consent but I won.

I am so sorry that you have to deal with this crap!!! People can be ******** to the worst degree. She has her own issues and she picks on you or others to feel better about herself. Some of the things that bother us about others is actually a reflexion on what we feel about ourselves. Don't take her rude comments to heart- look at the source. She isn't worth you getting upset. The only people that can hurt you are the ones that you care about. If it was a family member saying those things it would be cause for hurt. She is nothing to you so let it roll. She is just showing her ignorance by acting this way.

PS- let me know and the next time I'm in Chicago I'll personally kick her ***
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Get a pic of her and post it. Then we will rip on her
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Get a pic of her and post it.
oooh.
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O.K. Eric, first off this is total B.*.! I may get heat for this, but I don't care if she is female or not! You have options! Go here or just get online and find your own.
http://www.madufflaw.com/

You can sue her, the management, and the company!!! You don't have to put up with that B.*. ...!
Unfortunately Eric has not said anything toward the girl or managemant that he does not welcome these comments or that he wants them to stop. Theres no grouds at this point for any lawsuit. First step is to bring it up that this is not welcome and that they need to stop, then after that if it continues, you have grounds.

Eric, you need to make your feeling known long before it gets this far if you want to be able to follow up with legal action. A simple "I expect that to completely stop" to the manager when he told her to leave that would've put you on solid legal grounds. You still have a chance if those mangers that have witnessed it will stick their neck out for you , but somehow I doubt that will happen.
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Doesn't your car have ABS? If so, you can't even lock up your brakes like that. Call her on it.
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Old 08-05-2006, 08:25 PM   #28
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Doesn't your car have ABS? If so, you can't even lock up your brakes like that. Call her on it.
Good point!
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regarding your letter, if you intend to write it.

dont tell them the law. they know it and it will just annoy them for you to quote it. maybe make a reference to it being illegal, but leave it at that.

concentrate on debunking her statement and making her appear childish with her complaints. like point out that its not possible for your brakes to lock up. explain why you wouldnt do that, because youve gotten a ticket in the parking lot before and you dont want it to happene again because then youd get fired. they know it and they remember it, so theres no harm in your referencing it to support your claim. itd also point out that you remember it too and dont want it to happen again. reference the camera if possible, and use statements written by coworkers to support your claims that she badmouths you and contributes to a hostile working environment. use that phrase exactly - "hostile working environment", because that will remind them of the law without you annoying them. also mention that you have been attempting to ignore it, so that you never complained to management UNTIL a) the bosses endorsed her behaviour by writing you up before asking for your side of what happened and b) you were written up, which goes in you employee file and might potentially harm any career you have with them.
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find out her phone number and post it...
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