Yeah, what are you thinking??? We are cheering the guy up and you come in with a statement like that. You must pick the wrong types of women if you hate them so much. As far as your gf- if you think there is a chance she is cheating on you...Why, what is she NOT getting from you that would make her want to find it elsewhere?

Get back to us on this.

this coming from Ms. I picture my ex being tortured....lol

I merely said, pack her up, get her out of your life and move on... it'* too short

I was trying to give him some anger managment techniques.

Girls (and guys) who cheat aren't excused because they aren't getting something from their actual partner. If they feel they are missing something from their relationship they should communicate about the things they need to have fulfilled, whatever those things may be, rather than finding it elsewhere. If things aren't working out then end it.

With that being said, someone who cheats isn't necessarily missing something 'at home,' they are just selfish and look for something 'extra' on the side. For the sake of sounding cliche, they want to 'have their cake and eat it too.'

Nick it sucks, but move on. You're better then her. Don't analyze it any more than that. It sucks but lamenting just makes the pain worse.

You are correct to some extent. There are those who just like to be promiscuous and those that are lacking something from their partner. Either way it still sucks for the person being left behind. I'm starting to wonder if there are any decent older guys left. It seems that when you are young you can find people that are not jaded but when you get older you have to deal with all the mental anguish other relationships have put on the man (in my case) and all the baggage, all the mistrust. It is really frustrating. I know it'* that way on both sides.

It sucks when you build trust with someone and they completely sabatoge it, because it does change your perspective on things. I've been jaded a lot from my past 2 relationships and what I thought I wanted before in life is beginning to become something I am not really excited about. I don't know how exactly it will change relationships I will have in the future, but I know it won't change who I am as a person. I sure won't put up with BS that I have in the past. I used to be a lot more trusting that I am now. IMO, as hard as it must be to feel untrusted it is much harder for someone who wants to trust someone but can't, because they have been completely used and abused.

Anyway..there are still decent guys/girls around regardless of what they've been through! I agree though that it must be harder to find them as you get older. Or if not harder to find them, just harder to work through the past. :?

Hon, you are preaching to the choir. I've had more than my share of bad relationships. I was too naive and wanted to believe that these people were everything they seemed to be only to be used, abused, and now cynical. How old are you?

24...not too cynical...yet. :?

See, you are still young and there is hope for you. I am not 24 or 34 and like I said the older you get the worse it gets. I don't know if I will ever meet someone that is my match. I don't worry about it. If it is meant to be then it will happen.

So, Sqela, this conversation bonnie94sse and I have had should make you feel a little better. You are not in the boat alone so grab an oar and ROW, ROW, ROW