so just use that setup to trip the coil for the HID harness?

Exactly, the the positive wire thats trips the HID coil is very low amperage, any relay could handle it. The NAPA part number is listed there and prolly pretty cheap.

ok so now that i have taken a look at the setup here, its looks like i need a SPDT relay, which i have around rated at 30 amps, now the question is where am i taking the power from the starter from? should i use the starter wire somewhere in the cabin?

UPDATE: so i finally got the delay relay done after the delay of messing up my Passkey III system lol, works perfect thanks for finding it John

now my HIDs just flash for a second as I turn the key past on then turn off while the engine is cranking and then come right back on once the key is relased to the on poisition

now I don't cringe while watching them flicker against my garage wall like I used to

isnt there a manual override for this issue? the headlights eat the crap out of the battery when trying to crank my bonneville in cold weather. But there is the twist switch i use before i start here up to save up some juice for the starter lol

you can turn the light switch to parking lights only, that is the only way i know of, i wanted to keep everything so it was a simple as possible as possible, jump in the car and start it