ok, I dont know where else to turn, and I do think of you all as sort of an extended family of sorts... so here goes (this sorta goes along w/ Jim'* "heres your card" post)


I'm tryin to figure out what is wrong with me because it seems like everytime i turn around im single again.. heres the rundown...

1) i just got out of a month and 1/2 relationship with a girl whom i thought everything ws gonna work out for.. she cheated on me w/ her ex.
2) the girl before her lasted 3 months.. cheated on me w/ some like 40 year old.
3) girl before her... 11 months. dumped me because she was gettin with my best friend (at the time)
and last but not least.
4)2 year relationship....ended because "she found someone better"

so as im sitting here im wondering what the hell is the matter with me, why am i always tossed out like yesterdays trash..... plus add that to problems at home and i feel a little overwhelmed right now...... i feel like im gonna have a nervous breakdown.. i really dont know what to do anymore.... not that anyone but me can figure it out.. i just had to vent......sorry for puttin my troubles on y'all

Trust me on this......wait until you marry one, and this happens. If I can live through that after almost 11 years of marriage, you can live through this. You'll shut down for a couple weeks, then start looking again. She'* out there. Don't go searching, let her find you.

Better advice than anything i could come up with. I was married almost 15 years when she decided it was time to move on.

Women, you can't live with 'em. The End - Al Bundy

Bill is damn right, let them find you...its actually kinda cool. Just sitting there minding your own business, and all of a sudden she pops up and is a part of your life....and instantly it feels like she was always there.

Its sucks when they give you the run around Matt....no one wants to be treated like dirt...as those girls did to you...however, your not the one with the problem...they are!

I have a new saying based on all the friend cards that I have had to take...

Its HER LOSS

I can honestly say that I was exactly the same way! I was always dumped, and I know now that it wasn't because of me. I had one girl actually tell me that I wasn't aggressive enough!!... ...So I pretty much gave up on 'em...until one day. I heard through the grapevine that she liked me and wanted to date. (She is terribly shy.) So I called her up and we started dating. 9 months later, we married, and we've had ups and downs, as you always will, but it makes us stronger. Keep your chin up, she'll find ya!!!

Beem maried for 11 years now and 2 girls later happest i've ever been; Befor that i thought i'd never find any body, Hang in ther ther'* sombody for everyone.Plus ya always got us.lol

I can't say much. I thought that I found someone back in 93. I married her in 2002 last year. June 6th DIVORCED I, feel you Matt. I still feel that no one wants me. **** it, I just won't look anymore. Either someone wants to use me or my moneyu becase I am too nice. Bill, that waiting for them to come to you thing, for me, thats a laugh.

It'* a laugh until she comes along...

The only things that have been worth their beans came to me.

When you work for it, you cut corners, and lower standards, this is progressive too.

I don't know if this applies to you.. only you would know.. DON'T look for common traits with your new girl as you did with your old one ( other then being female ).. if theres something that reminds you of the ex.. you know it'* not going to work.. some people tend to look for something that reminds of sometime ( ago ).. DON'T.. it didn't work out then.. it wouldn't work out now... think of it as same **** different shovel concept.. find someone whose different.. if this applies to you that is.. cause it seems they have similar traits to have caused their way that attracted you to them in the first place... if I"m off.. then.... well I"m off..
*ducts behind BC'* bouncer.. Lil Pooky*