Chevy boy, I know your hurting inside and I know the pain your going through.

I myself have become single about 3 weeks ago. I was with my Ex for 6 years. We had built a life together and she was a big part of it. Things happen over time and finally it was time to let go. Were still friends and we talk here and there, but I still find myself feeling a little empty at times, like when I wake up in the morning, my routine is not so routine anymore.

Your a young guy and have lots to look forward to. Keep thinking of the positives in life and rest assured that if this girl wasnt "the One" then it wasnt meant to be. You will always have people in and out of your life and just know that you have friends here on Bonnvilleclub that will listen and offer their own experiences and help.

Dont give up on yourself. Use this time to think about what you want to do next in life, and although others suggested getting into another relationship, I say lay low on that for a while until your over your pain. Rebound relationships dont usually last.

Just know that when your feeling down, just do your best to keep your head up and do the right thing. Think of the possibilities of what you can do to better yourself and learn from this experience. I'm sure the way she broke up with you, left you feeling pretty badly, but you have to get over that and realize that you didnt do anything wrong.

Just keep going and dont give up on yourself. As they say, time heals all wounds, and although you have shared part of your life with her, and made her a part of your life, it is now time to move on and think about yourself and what lies ahead for you and your future.

Thanks guys...And girls.... Yesterday was really hard. I called her after school and asked her if this is the way she really wanted it to be_ she said yes. I asked if this was a never ever or a we shall see_ She said never ever. I am so hurt guys, its prety bad now. But, I called My UTI rep and asked him if he could put me back on the roster for august. He said he thought id never ask. So Im back on track for UTI. I have nothing here in The Monterey Bay for me anymore. Screw it. I will love her until the day I die. She got me, and i fell for her prertty hard. She will always be my baby.

I know this is gonna sound a little immature but, its my way of dealing with it. i cant see her name without wanting to cry, so I deleted her contact from my phone.


I feel dead. I feel insignificant, like.... A doll used to confort somone when they felt lonely.

Im not alive anymore.

You will feel that way for a while. I've lost a few women, and it'* always the same. The "stay busy" advice is probably the best for now. Keep your mind busy so you don't have as much time to torture yourself. Just don't make it worse by trying to drink it away. Trust me...

On a side note, my on is out in Monterrey right now with the USAF!

whoever said "time heals all wounds" was an idiot.

it wont heal, itll scar. but it will stop bleeding eventually.

The way I look at it, its all up to the individual if it heals or if it scars

Consider this one of the many chapters in life that has now been completed. Now its time fo rthe next chapter and its up to you to make it better than the last!!

As you can tell from all of the posts here, were all behind you and share in your pain. Your going to be okay dude!!

This was my experience, women in my life aways seemed to break up with me for one reason or another. My average relationships lasted 3 to 4 years each. And each time I felt like throwing up, couldn't sleep, got really depressed and after each time I didn't want anything to do with girls. I swore I never wanted to get hurt like that Ever again. I went out with my wife for 4 years before I I married her at age 28 and we've been married for 21 years.....you do the math. I would go through my past hurt again in a heart beat just knowing that I'll ended up with my best friend Cathy for life...You have a loooong time still and believe me the chances of getting hurt again are.............well ..........I let it go at that. As most have said, it hurts like a son of a B****, but it will pass in days months years.........it will pass. It'* what I call the cycle of life my friend.

Sorry to hear about the break up. As it'* all been said already, you are young, so you have plenty of time to find another girl. Just take it easy and surround yourself with friends and family to try and take your mind off of her. I think maybe you are just too young right now, and maybe she will come around. She will realize before long that it isn't all about physical attraction. You could be the most handsome man in the world, but if she isn't emotionally there with you, then the physical attraction won't be there either. Just get on with your life, and in time you will be happy. Heck, a guy that goes to my church is on his third wife. The first two were great marriages, but they both died, and his current wife is awesome. So if he can find love again, I'm sure you will.

all I will add is don't drink away the pain some of the stupidest stuff I have done has been after my wife left and after my ex and I called it quits. but life goes on and I am as happy as can be with my new gf. I am 23 btw so I still got a couple years till I am even going to consider a marriage type relationship. Enjoy being young taste what is out there and trust me when I say people change as they get older so just keep that in mind when you think that you found the one at 18 wait till you are over the college age thing then really look. I know I am not one to talk I was young and dumb too but hey I am happy were I am at now and that is all that matters. be happy with you and you alone then you can add a gf to the mix