Is there such a thing as "too nice?"
 

For years, I have been told that I am too nice to people, both professionally and personally. I have always brushed it off, thinking to myself that the world could use a little more "nice" and since I'm such a great guy, who better to bring smiles to the world :roll:

Recently, I was told by a co-worker, whose opinion I value, that my "niceness" was coming back to bite me. This was in reference to some "over and above" customer service I had performed. No free merchandise was injured or given LOL.

So does it pay and reward to be "less than friendly and giving?"

I'm one of those people too. It's not a bad thing at all, until someone tries to take advantage of you. :evil:

I had a bank teller transfer $3,900 into my bank account instead of $390 and I immediately went back and told her of her error because I'm sure that she would have lost her job. I'm not going to profit off of someone else's mistake/misfortune!

Yeah, I would feel pretty bad about that. Knowing for the rest of your life that someone lost their job, and you could have easily prevented it...

Ehhh, money is a pretty strong driving tool to change a person.

I'm way too nice too. Every new year's I make a resolution to be meaner, but it just doesn't stick :D Oh well, I'll have to manipulate through kindness I guess. I can be mean, it just takes a whole lot to get me there.

I think when "too nice" translates into "getting stepped on" that's really too bad. I have found that, at least in my life, it pays to be nice but you have to make sure to have a backbone enough to not get run over by everyone else. I used to be too "too nice" and tried to make everyone happy. Now, I realize thats just impossible. I try to be nice to everyone, unless they give me a good reason not to. People that have known me over the last few years, though, have found that I won't let people walk all over me-I'm not quite *that* nice.

I wouldn't say that I'm too nice....my personality is summed up very simply:

Everyone is innocent until proven guilty! :lol:

I'll give everyone a fair chance and treat everyone with respect until they do something to make me feel otherwise.

I agree with PJ. I try to be nice until someone takes advantage of me and then all bets are off. I try to be a people pleaser but sometimes you just have to accept that you can't please some people. I would say to keep being yourself and learn to recognize if someone is taking advantage of you....if so- nip it quickly.

hmmmmm, I've been called one of the nicest guys on earth,..more than once :D I've also been called a mean basterd, also more than once. Guess it all depends on who you ask! lol :wink:

I never really notice how nice people are.... I'm told I'm a mean bastard daily, But really nice when shit needs done. Who knows?

Be you.