Wow Pmom, I thought I was alone. (It always feels that way until you talk to someone who is pretty much in the same situation)

My son just sits in class and does absolutely nothing. He is in what they call an IEP (Individual Education Plan) where a teacher comes into the class, and helps the kids who need it.

I have to say though, my son actually did his homework, which is big news since he hasnt done any since the start of the year. I told him how proud I was that he had made the effort even though it was hard for him.

His ADHD has allot to do with it and I have spoken to other parents with kids who have ADHD and find that our stories are pretty much the same. Doing poorly in school, behavioral issues, defiant most of the times etc etc.......

Im going to make an appointment after the holiday with his doctor to see if there are any other alternatives to help him out, because I cant imagine what my son is going through dealing with his ADHD.

Tallbump, like you said, its not easy being dad, but a mans work is never done either. I usually try and split everything down the middle including laundry, cooking, cleaning.

When I was growing up, my mother would alternate the chores between my brother and I every other day, and it worked out, and still does to this day since thats how me and the gf work out our chores at home. yeah I miss a day here and there, but so doesnt she

They say that parenting doesnt come with a manual right? I think I want to try and write one and sell it for Millions LOL.

Black, I know what you mean. I'd be happy to co-author that book with you. Just gear it to fathers. Especially ones that are in our situation, with two different households.
I think we'd need a women'* point of view if we wanted to target them. I don't think you'll get many women listening to a man'* advice on how to raise children.(Unless our name was Dr. Spock)
By the way, how did your son like his homecoming last week? Did he love what you did with his room?

Well, he wasnt very happy, and for now seems to be content with it, but I did tell him that once I see homework being done that he would earn his T.V back. Its sitting on my loveseat in the bedroom at the moment. I'm going to assume that he is going to ask for it tonight since he did his homework lastnight, but I think I will give it back to him once we get back from NY.

Personally, I would want him to do like a weeks'* worth or so of homework .
Have a nice trip!

Its almost been about that.

Im leaving at 5am Thursday morning. I have a Turkey to deliver.

Good to hear that he'* been doing good.
Have a good Holiday and a safe trip!

Hang in there Tony..

Habits are formed after about a month. Knowing it'* tough to keep things from him... I'd be way past a week before I turned it back over. That'* like giving in after 5 minutes of fighting.

You want to help him get new habits before giving old habits back.

I never did homework. I only went to school to socialize I had friends that did my work for me

Jeff use to get nailed with homework that he had to do. I helped him some but let his dad help him with algebra.

Hey guys thanks for the vote of confidence You know, when a father is involved in their child'* life, it is a wonderful thing to see! I love that, you can certainly tell the children (boys) who do not have some sort of male influence in their lives at the school, and it does not have to be the father, it can be a teacher, brother, friend...you get the point.

Hey Black, you son is exactly the kind of child that I work with on a daily basis, in fact I only work with children who are on IEP'*, execpt on the days I work with the special needs...I know it is confusing. BTW, our Andrew is on an IEP, and I think they are good things, just because they get more of the one on one attention they need I LOVE my job, I have too much fun, and I don't think I am allowed to have that much fun.

A book for fathers would be FANTASTIC!!! A man'* point of view is so rare these days, you always hear about the moms point of view. Dads or men deserve respect too