My crappy relationship with my pops
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Originally Posted by willwren
Any other idea is a waste of time and your life.
Don't dwell on it, move on, and it'll come around on it'* own later and solve itself.
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Realize, Fuel, that when I say "move out" I don't mean that you should cut all ties or anything, just that a little space between a Father and Son seems to help solve alot of the relationship problems that develop when the son hits his late teens.
As for your Dad spending more time with your older brother, and sharing his interests...
...well, I don't know how to solve that problem, because I haven't solved it yet, either. My Dad'* the same way.
As for your Dad spending more time with your older brother, and sharing his interests...
...well, I don't know how to solve that problem, because I haven't solved it yet, either. My Dad'* the same way.
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Originally Posted by willwren
What I meant by that is you can't FORCE him. And the odds are in favor of him coming around later in life on his own. Forcing it may only make the distance between them greater.
Don't dwell on it, move on, and it'll come around on it'* own later and solve itself.
Don't dwell on it, move on, and it'll come around on it'* own later and solve itself.
Unfortunately you can't pick your relatives. I have a brother that I don't get a long with but when we are in the same location I put all the old grief on the back burner and just get through that day. My brother has his own issues that don't even involve me but I am his target for whatever reason. My mom says she thinks he'* jealous of my relationship with my parents. That is his problem. He could come around more often.
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Yeah, I know what you are going through. I have the same relationship with my mother. The day after I graduated I moved out. We would go months without talking, and then I would get a nasty letter telling me how bad of a person I was. I have an awesome relationship with my dad though. I moved in with him, and my mother turned her whole side of the family against me. Until recently the only time I saw her and any of them was christmas, weddings and funerals.
I lived my life the way I wanted. I didn't follow the path they thought I should have, I followed my own. Five years later, I'm where I wanted to be, and it finally hit her that I was doing fine. Now everyone likes me again, and I didn't give in.
So just do what you think is right, and they will come around when it finally hits them that you are a grown *** man and know how to take care of your ****.
I lived my life the way I wanted. I didn't follow the path they thought I should have, I followed my own. Five years later, I'm where I wanted to be, and it finally hit her that I was doing fine. Now everyone likes me again, and I didn't give in.
So just do what you think is right, and they will come around when it finally hits them that you are a grown *** man and know how to take care of your ****.
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