More Trouble in River City !!!
08-28-2005, 04:06 PM
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If that were my daughter, || <-- this close to going to jail, she would be imprisoned within the home for a time. I would remind her the difference between "appropriate" and "inappropriate" conduct, and would come just short to fitting her with a chastity belt and swallowing the key.
That'* a good one. You probably don't have teens.The laws and child protect services do not allow that today.....we found that out the hard way 2 years ago. There is no way of keeping a child over 14 locked in any way. In fact you would go to jail or lose your kid to social services if you even try. If they want to go out after you have gone to bed, they can and often will. :(
I do like your idea of more one on one activities.
08-28-2005, 04:09 PM
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Originally Posted by 2000SilverBullet
If that were my daughter, || <-- this close to going to jail, she would be imprisoned within the home for a time. I would remind her the difference between "appropriate" and "inappropriate" conduct, and would come just short to fitting her with a chastity belt and swallowing the key.
That'* a good one. You probably don't have teens.The laws and child protect services do not allow that today.....we found that out the hard way 2 years ago. There is no way of keeping a child over 14 locked in any way. In fact you would go to jail or lose your kid to social services if you even try. If they want to go out after you have gone to bed, they can and often will. :(
I do like your idea of more one on one activities.
It'* not illegal here...yet.
08-28-2005, 04:40 PM
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Originally Posted by 2000SilverBullet
If that were my daughter, || <-- this close to going to jail, she would be imprisoned within the home for a time. I would remind her the difference between "appropriate" and "inappropriate" conduct, and would come just short to fitting her with a chastity belt and swallowing the key.
That'* a good one. You probably don't have teens.The laws and child protect services do not allow that today.....we found that out the hard way 2 years ago. There is no way of keeping a child over 14 locked in any way. In fact you would go to jail or lose your kid to social services if you even try. If they want to go out after you have gone to bed, they can and often will. :(
I do like your idea of more one on one activities.
08-28-2005, 09:57 PM
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Originally Posted by willwren
Hammer down, united front from both parents. You and Laura have to pull ALL priveleges, including driving, and give them back slowly as she earns them.
08-28-2005, 10:27 PM
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Originally Posted by repinS
Coming from a 17 year old (I be 18 in 3 months)... rule with an iron fist indeed. T'works.
I've never been punished... But I can climb out of a bag of **** smelling like roses.
I've learned lessons strictly from exposure and embarrasment.
08-28-2005, 10:42 PM
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Originally Posted by swerve
Originally Posted by repinS
Coming from a 17 year old (I be 18 in 3 months)... rule with an iron fist indeed. T'works.
I've never been punished... But I can climb out of a bag of **** smelling like roses.
I've learned lessons strictly from exposure and embarrasment.
Please, correct me if I misunderstood you...
08-28-2005, 11:12 PM
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when dealing with things like that you have to be firm, but, you can't try to keep kids from things like sex by making them scared of it. It'* o.k. to let them know that they shouldn't be doing it until they are older and really love the person. You do NOT want to tell them it'* wrong to have sex, sex is dirty, etc. If they're told that enough it can lead to personality disorders. Meaning they possibly won't have sex as a teenager, or maybe even when they're getting much older because they'll feel wrong for doing it... you have to be careful in the way you discipline and teach your kids because sometimes it can cause more harm than good.
The best way you can get through to a kid is to talk calmy to them and listen to what they have to say. Do not act like you are preaching to them or they're going to feel under attack and retaliate or not listen at all. Instead listen to their point of view and give your insight after they are finished. Show genuine concern and make sure they know that is the motivation for this talk. Your genuine concern for their safety, and your love for them wanting to keep them safe from her making a mistake she might regret for the rest of her life. Do not make her feel like a bad person, try to let her know that she might regret what she is doing though.
The best way you can get through to a kid is to talk calmy to them and listen to what they have to say. Do not act like you are preaching to them or they're going to feel under attack and retaliate or not listen at all. Instead listen to their point of view and give your insight after they are finished. Show genuine concern and make sure they know that is the motivation for this talk. Your genuine concern for their safety, and your love for them wanting to keep them safe from her making a mistake she might regret for the rest of her life. Do not make her feel like a bad person, try to let her know that she might regret what she is doing though.