Congrads and wishing you two a blessed union. Sorry to hear
about the current issue regarding your father. Hope everything
pans out smooth for the home stretch..........

Congrats!..(.I think issues like you're describing are pretty common....seems like it wouldn't be a wedding if there wasn't some sort of family feud to deal with ...I bet it'll work out fine...when it comes down to it, people should realize that it'* about you two more than anyone else)...

Make the most of it! And fill that buick up with little tiny mr goodwrenches

Before married: fast as hell! After Married, slooooooooooooooooowww and painfullll! j/k

Congrats !!!

I feel for you. I was adopted at birth. I have since found out who my biological mom is. She sought me. Neither she nor my adopted mom want to be anywhere around each other. It was even a struggle in setting everything up. Who sits where? Who gets first dance? We almost considered eloping!

Nevertheless I'm telling you as I was told.... It'* your day. If people can't respect that then it'* their problem. On that day they should cater to you and your wishes and leave their selfish designs and wishes behind out of respect for you. You need to tell them this, in so many words. If they love you and respect your day, they will honor it. If not, then it goes a long way in telling you how well they really love and respect you IMHO.

I ended up giving my adopted mom and dad front and center. I carry their name and they raised me. Sure, my bio mom was a bit hurt, but she got over it, I think....

I don't regret a thing. We did the right thing, and I'm glad we didn't elope. We look back and see it as a blessed thing. We've been married for two wonderful years now and just had our first child, a son, on the 15th of Feburary!!!

i tryed to tell y dad something like what u said to do but he said its his day too becase his forst born son it getting married and blah blah. my dad like to use guilt trips to get his way they used to work on me till i grew up he still tryes but i just look past them.

Congratulations! I've been married for almost three years now, and it has been the best three years of my life (that is not to say of course that there have been no problems, but it has always been worth it). Rogue is right...it does go slowly once you're married (but quickly at the same time...it'* like "wow, feels like we've been married forever" and "our wedding day seems like just yesterday" at the same time :P ).

I wish you two all the best (though no wedding is perfect, just a warning...there will always be something that goes horribly wrong that day; but it'* the marriage that matters, not the wedding ).

I will give you one piece of advice though...something that has made profound changes in my life and marriage. I never knew this until a kind old man who has had many ups and downs in his own marriage but has been successfully married for many decades told me during some hard times in my own, but it is the best advice I have ever recieved in my life. If you both live by this your marriage will go on forever.

Love is not an emotion, it is an act, and a choice that you make every day. Sometimes the fuzzy feeling will subside (it is inevitable...ask anyone who has been married for a long time), or you may start to have it for someone or something else (start feeling for a co-worker or friend, or start directing that love towards things like money, cars, or other things), but it is your choice where your love goes. If you wake up every day and say that reguardless of how she acts, what she does, and how you feel, you will love her and put her ahead of everyone and everyhing in your life (and she does the same for you) you will always have a strong marriage.

I hope that'* not preachy...it was just such an important realization for me and my husband...I don't want anyone else to go without it.

Anyway, congrats again, and enjoy it.

It'* probably a little late in the game for this, but the best marriage advice I ever got was...

Don't marry a woman you can live with. Marry a woman you can't live without.

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.

rouge what u said is true for us i can go 1 day with out seeing her but 2 day nope cant do. it may sound like young love but were been together for 3 years friends since highschool. but if she can stick with me though all my crap and my dad crap and mostly me being unemployed since march. i know were gonna fine we have been living together for 2 years or so and i dont think much will change after were married but everybody i talk to say "ooo it will change"