its the same with me, i can talk to girls no problem. i don't easily develop a "crush" on a girl, but when i do, i can barely squeak out a "hi". like this girl at work, i really want to ask out, i think she likes me, she's super nice, and honestly a 10. i think i may take the plunge and ask her out friday....maybe. but anyways here is what ive found out, if you don't think about it, you'll be better off. the more you think of it, the more your mind twists it around, and you end up depressing yourself, believe me IVE BEEN THERE, im even there right now! thats why i have to ask her out.

confidence is a must, i have confidence, but when im around her, i totally bottle up, gotta get over it. it kinda works a little to tell yourself that you don't really like her, in your mind try to tell yourself 'you just want a piece, no big dea if you don't get itl" - im NOT LIKE THAT AT ALL, trust me, but if you can trick your mind a little bit to thinking your not really that interested, it seems to help loosen me up.

but what works for me, may only work for me, i used to be incredibly shy, you wouldn't believe. i still am a little, just not as much.

Mikey..Auroras help... :wink:

Whore-rora's help???

Freak..... :?

I wish I didnt call her today. i should have waited for her to call me.

THIS IS SO TRUE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! dude I thought I was going to be single forever, like Im talking I was interested in 6 different girls throughout a two year stint and all of them jerked me around so you can guess what kind of emotional shape I was in then about three weeks ago I wasnt even supposed to go to the bar but I went anyway cause my buddy skipped out on me and I met this girl I am dating right now and I couldnt be happie, I used to scream at people who said shit like this to me but as mad as it made me these little tings are actually true, and dont be hard on yourself trust me from personal experience it will lead you down a road where decisions you might consider are permaent if you know what I mean. Cheer up and if you want maybe we can convince MOS to make you a booger sculpture

well now you know, just wait for her to call you, let her call do not give in to temptation cause as much as you want to talk to her it might seem a little scary(again from personal experience)

It's a chance you had to take. There have been a couple of times I didn't call, and it was the wrong choice. So long as she didn't leave sounding ticked or insulted, you're probably fine.

Keep in touch, without stalking, and see how things go...

Steve, you're luckier than you might think. My problem is the exact opposite. In the last 2 years, I've probably gone out on 'first dates' with 6 or 7 women (don't laugh if I don't know the exact number......some were very casual). This includes blind dates, just meeting people, etc.

ALL but ONE of them fell madly in love the first date. I'm not kidding around here. It's very scary, and makes me consider not dating any more. It's really annoying that you can't develop a 'normal' relationship because of this. (the one who didn't was shallower than an empty teaspoon in the mojave desert).

I've had more stalkers in the last hear than Bush has bodygaurds. These stalkers aren't the same people as the ones mentioned above, either. I'm blind to simple flirting. I can't detect it until it's too late. It really sucks sometimes. I can be 'just friends' and sometimes that's what I want, but I can't sense when they get serious until they're in too deep, and I'm not.

You have it easy, bud. Take your time.

Oh yeah! There are definate upsides to the single life. I'm enjoying still having my rights :).

It's amazing how much personality there is on this forum...People full of great advice...All these guys willing to talk about their emotions and relationships...and lotsa laughs...makes me feel all warm and cozy...

Steve...you're just trying too hard and beating yourself up...It takes a while to sort stuff out...BELIEVE ME...I wont go into detail but I know from a great deal of crazy, painful, and sometimes downright ridiculous personal experience...

As for being single...sometimes it sucks...but really it gives you a chance to just worry about yourself....don't worry so much about being single...you're young...take the time to figure out what'll really make you happy...worry more about making some good friends....instead of just rushing into filling that passenger seat...