I can't sleep
 

Reason being, the girl I got off the phone with like and hour ago and only spoke for 2 mins. I really like this person but its hard for me to opedn up to her because I just met her. She is the one if you remember that I went to the laundromat with. I guess the conversation that was going on today was what messed me up. We saw each other yesterday but it was because she had some business to take care of. I was just hppy that she called me and I helped her out. Today i called her and she was always wondering why I was quiet after so long? I told her that I was nervous. She said"On the phone? Normally people be nervous in person." I said" No i guess I just don't want to say the wrong thing to u", then her other line beeps. She clicks back over to me and we talk for just a little bit when I asked her if she was busy this wekend. She said that she has plans. I was like shocked. She did just break up with her bioyfriend and I was trying to take things slow but i guess I might not be good enough to take her out. I even asked if she was washing because she did mention that and if she wanted company, she says her cousin is going with her. But she did say she will call me if I do talk. She was serious when she said that and I am really quiet on the phone. Shy and everything else. I hate this starting over thing. I will never know who is out there for me if I can't even feel to either speak to someone or find someone patient enough to deal with me. Now I can't even sleep. I feel worse than when my ex-wife told me she don't want to be with me anymore.

Dude, you went to the laundrymat, she's seen you're dirt skivvies, and still talks to you. You've got a chance. But it may be too soon for her. Play it cool for a bit and see what happens..

Take her for a hot date in the bonnie. Find something that you two an talk about that has nothign to do with "the two of you".

The sleep part is easy. Since you don't drink, get a running start, and go head first into the wall next to your bed. If you plan it right, you'll wake up on your bed in the morning.

Dood.....she didn't slam the door in your face. She left it open just a crack ;)

She wanted me to go with her to wash her clothes 3 weeks ago and I went. She has plans this weekend so taking her out is out of the question. I look at that passenger side and I am tired of it being empty all the time. Maybe I am ugly or something.

Nah, you're a good man. Just be yourself. Bite the bullet, i did earlier this week, and it was the best time all year, even if nothing comes from it, it was nice having those butterflies in my stomach, first time since high school. :wink:

:lmao

It'll get better. Women can be bitchy sometimes.... :x Wish there was some way I could cheer you up.

--Christine :?

Jason, if you'd quit eating bugs, girls would like you more....

And my dear John, if you'd show up to a meet, you'd get an LED keychain. :wink:

:looklaugh: You're point?

Hey man theres no reason to start kickin your own ass. The best things in life come when you least expect em.

butterflies in stomach, quit eating bugs.... hahaha.

Mos, those aren't bugs, they're boogers.

And Jason...you caant speel. Welcome to the world of your versus you're. Besides, it's ALMOST worth not having a LED keychain just so we can pick on you from a distance :wink:

Well, Steve, even if our advice sucks, we can at least try to get you to laugh :wink:

--Christine :roll:

I thought she was least expected how we met up. I think I am going to single for the rest of my life. :cry:

I have said that zillions of times, i SWEAR. it WILL get better. Confidence in yourself is a must, women are attracted to it. Besides, the single life isn't that bad, it means you get guilt free flirting rights :D

--Christine :wink:

i guess

She's right, dude... I never met a woman that went "Wow!!" the first time we met... But I have met a few that, after a few weeks, we became more than friends...

Grass is always greener on the other side of the fence, it could be worse, you could be married!!

i was

Single is not so bad...

But I know NOTHING of relationship... :?

I been with my wife sense 16, and ive even known her a little longer... all im saying is, im going to have to invest in playboy soon... (hope she doesnt see this) :lol:

its the same with me, i can talk to girls no problem. i don't easily develop a "crush" on a girl, but when i do, i can barely squeak out a "hi". like this girl at work, i really want to ask out, i think she likes me, she's super nice, and honestly a 10. i think i may take the plunge and ask her out friday....maybe. but anyways here is what ive found out, if you don't think about it, you'll be better off. the more you think of it, the more your mind twists it around, and you end up depressing yourself, believe me IVE BEEN THERE, im even there right now! thats why i have to ask her out.

confidence is a must, i have confidence, but when im around her, i totally bottle up, gotta get over it. it kinda works a little to tell yourself that you don't really like her, in your mind try to tell yourself 'you just want a piece, no big dea if you don't get itl" - im NOT LIKE THAT AT ALL, trust me, but if you can trick your mind a little bit to thinking your not really that interested, it seems to help loosen me up.

but what works for me, may only work for me, i used to be incredibly shy, you wouldn't believe. i still am a little, just not as much.

Mikey..Auroras help... :wink:

Whore-rora's help???

Freak..... :?

I wish I didnt call her today. i should have waited for her to call me.

THIS IS SO TRUE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! dude I thought I was going to be single forever, like Im talking I was interested in 6 different girls throughout a two year stint and all of them jerked me around so you can guess what kind of emotional shape I was in then about three weeks ago I wasnt even supposed to go to the bar but I went anyway cause my buddy skipped out on me and I met this girl I am dating right now and I couldnt be happie, I used to scream at people who said shit like this to me but as mad as it made me these little tings are actually true, and dont be hard on yourself trust me from personal experience it will lead you down a road where decisions you might consider are permaent if you know what I mean. Cheer up and if you want maybe we can convince MOS to make you a booger sculpture

well now you know, just wait for her to call you, let her call do not give in to temptation cause as much as you want to talk to her it might seem a little scary(again from personal experience)

It's a chance you had to take. There have been a couple of times I didn't call, and it was the wrong choice. So long as she didn't leave sounding ticked or insulted, you're probably fine.

Keep in touch, without stalking, and see how things go...

Steve, you're luckier than you might think. My problem is the exact opposite. In the last 2 years, I've probably gone out on 'first dates' with 6 or 7 women (don't laugh if I don't know the exact number......some were very casual). This includes blind dates, just meeting people, etc.

ALL but ONE of them fell madly in love the first date. I'm not kidding around here. It's very scary, and makes me consider not dating any more. It's really annoying that you can't develop a 'normal' relationship because of this. (the one who didn't was shallower than an empty teaspoon in the mojave desert).

I've had more stalkers in the last hear than Bush has bodygaurds. These stalkers aren't the same people as the ones mentioned above, either. I'm blind to simple flirting. I can't detect it until it's too late. It really sucks sometimes. I can be 'just friends' and sometimes that's what I want, but I can't sense when they get serious until they're in too deep, and I'm not.

You have it easy, bud. Take your time.

Oh yeah! There are definate upsides to the single life. I'm enjoying still having my rights :).

It's amazing how much personality there is on this forum...People full of great advice...All these guys willing to talk about their emotions and relationships...and lotsa laughs...makes me feel all warm and cozy...

Steve...you're just trying too hard and beating yourself up...It takes a while to sort stuff out...BELIEVE ME...I wont go into detail but I know from a great deal of crazy, painful, and sometimes downright ridiculous personal experience...

As for being single...sometimes it sucks...but really it gives you a chance to just worry about yourself....don't worry so much about being single...you're young...take the time to figure out what'll really make you happy...worry more about making some good friends....instead of just rushing into filling that passenger seat...

Princess, if any female was with me they can still be free. I just ask to give me a call. Thats it. I also wxpect some attention. I am real easy when it comes to stuff like this. Bill, I can't even get a simple friend out of this. I tried calling party lines and see the females and be wondering why they lie about the way they look. :x Then I try to see someone out on the street and its like I think the girl is to cute to be talked to or if they have a boyfriend or if they got a bad attitude and I don't want to deal with that. MOS, Monday she called me out the blue and asked me why I haven't called, I told her that i wanted to give her some space. I thought i was coming on to her to strong anfd she was involved. She told me she isnt with him anymore because he tried to choke her. I was like :nonono: . So I in a way thought that was a green light for me but when I talk to her i get lost with words. IThen it leanes her asking me why are you quiet? I say I am shy. I get nervous around her sometimes. I am going to loose her if i don;t think about what to say. This is why I think she has "PLANS" this weekend and not wanting to go out with me.

I don't even know why whhen stuff like this happens I keep spilling my beans like this. After a while you all will now my life story.

I don't have that many friends at all. Maybe if I did I wouldnt think about girls like the way I do. I do wotk alot but its like when I am on the road I think about how things will be when I get home, who wants to go out for the weekend and stuff like that. I tend to think about a lot of stuff on the highway cause I am there by myself. Oh well, I feel that I know what i want. I just don't know about liking the single life.

I know what it is......i am to skinny for these women. They like men with meet on there bones. Sorry ladies :(

Well posting 3x in your thread about it in a row, without responses doesn't help. :wink: j/k

Don't get to serious about it like wren said. I could be with any of my previous lady friends for whats left of my life, but the thing that killed them all was getting too serious too quick.

I've said it before and I'll say it again...wanna say it with me, Princess, Miami, and Bonniephile???

PERSONALITY IS WHAT MATTERS. I mean that.

--Christine :roll:

all together now :!: :D

I wouldn't sweat her too much. I am sure she is flattered that you called her. So she is busy this weekend- it doesn't mean you can't do something thru the week or even next weekend. Come up with a plan. Find out if there are any good concerts going on or plays and call her and say "Hey, there is this really great concert next weekend and I was wondering if you'd like to go?" It is really that simple. Girls like guys that make them laugh, are considerate, and don't try to gross them out until at least the 3rd date.

Screw what the girls want. Where are the smart girls I want? Dude, Screw making her happy. Get one that makes you happy.

This guy is awesome. Thank you. Seriously. Why should chicks be the ones that get to be selfish all the time??? Do what makes YOU happy!

Then again, not all chicks ARE selfish, i guess i'm just.......spoiled :lol:

--Christine :wink: