while it is easier to get forgiveness than permission, i think it might be hard to hide that from her while its being built.

i think her objection to it is that she doesnt think id use it (a fair assumption, i know next to nothing about working on cars right now), and as such, itd be a waste of money.

no kids yet, itll be a few years before we have kids.

Im sure there are going to be PLENTY of things that your wife wants to add to the home for HER so I say go for it.

If she wants to tell you what you can or can not have, then let HER pay the mortgage.

If it were me? I would get the lift anyways, then again my GF wouldnt appose to it either.


Good luck!!

This is what I was going to suggest also.

Her answer: You spend more time with that car than you do with me!!

Hope for forgiveness, or kepp begging. That'* your only options at this point.

And your wife never reads this forum?

jwakamud
You need to do a business case for the garage. Either that or jewelry.

Compromise. Let her paint the living room pink or something.

Find a fair compromise. If she wants special customized walk in closets or something specific agree to it as long as you get what you want. That way each gets what they want and will be happy. It'* always worked for me.

compromise was the first route i went. shes not willing to compromise on it. for some reason i cant tell, shes opposed to it.

i think what im going to have to do is like has been suggested, go with the garage that will support it and approach the issue at a later date. shes not opposed to a larger garage.

Have you both sat down and discussed why exactly she is opposed to it? Is it because of the possible danger to the kids (once you have them)? Perhaps she has a valid concern. I would talk to her and listen to her response and then try to reassure her that this will be best in the long run and it will make oil changes easier and not cost as much. Show her figures on how much the lift will cost. If you don't have a basement tell her you guys can hide in the pit when storm season comes. I would never recommend deceit between partners.