My ex didn't like the bonneville one bit when I bought it. It was money i couldn't spend on her, and she couldn't see the investment in it, nor how happy it made me when I got it. As I have said before... I still have the car.

Like previously stated, you can't change either person. The best thing to do is sit down and talk with the significant other and figure our the real reason she doesn't like it and go from there. This way, you can get to an underlying reason that might be causing this, or you might be able to compromise to where you set time aside for other activities seperate of eachother 9you with car, her with friends) or maybe you can even interest her in what you are doing (don't count on it) It is all about communication and understanding.

Hey! I said it first!

Can you talk to my wife for me???

My girlfriend doesnt like it when I spend 2hrs washing and detailing my car, however she has no problem riding around and being seen in a clean properly detailed car.

She also prefers to be included in the activity. She has no tangible interests in the car, however takes an interest in things that interest me.

Sound like you and your gf need to discuss priority, and figure a way to balance both. A car is a hobby, a mode of transportation, a slight infatuation, a girl/boyfriend shouldnt be.

If you can't beat 'em join 'em comes to mind. My hubby loved sports. I never had really given it a try so I did. I just so happened to like football, boxing, hockey, and sometimes basket ball. Had I never tried it I would have never known I liked it. I didn't change for him but I was willing to check out his hobbies. How do you know you don't like it unless you try it??? I never knew I would like Bonneville'* so much until I tried out this club and found out all of the wonderful information available.

Very wise people onboard here! I agree w/all the rest...chances are if she'* complaining about you spending time on your Bonnie...even IF you gave that up, there would be something ELSE to complain about. It'* not the bonnie that'* the problem - that'* only an easy target.

Of course, then again...if you USED to take her out and now you don't....and if you USED to spend money on her and now you don't...then perhaps she has a rightful complaint...

I always crack up when people first start going out...the wine, roses, dinner, <cough, sputter>...it'* all a horse and pony show....reality sets in about 6 mos down the road. Then it'* Saturday nights, ordering Pizza and watching COPS reruns. Oh joy. Been there...done that....now he'* gone...I replaced HIM with MY Bonnie!

P.*. Is there another Tracy in here?

Another thing comes to mind...

Don't let yourself get caught up in physical attraction, particularly sex. I don't know how long you've been dating this girl or why you're attracted to her, but sometimes the beauty of a person or their compatibility with you in the bedroom is something that keeps couples together MUCH longer than they should be.

My truth is that there'* a reason the Bible instructs people to abstain from intercourse until they're married: it allows you to love who they are and how well you interact with them in the other facets of life. I don't know if you have become sexually involved with this person, but make sure it'* not the reason you're staying together. Relationships are usually catastrophic when they're built on physical lust, and if your bedroom life has anything to do with your attractedness to your girlfriend, I would encourage you to take a step backward in order to view the big picture. Make sure you can coexist based on your personal interests and mannerisms, not on the pleasureable feelings associated with your private life.

I realize I have made a pretty large assumption here, but I'm just trying to give you some of the information that I know to be true. If you know you like this girl and I'm completely off base, that'* great. I'm certainly not attacking you on a personal level. I just want to encourage you to make certain that your continued relationship with this woman is for the right reasons. If you're sexually involved, stop. Then you'll have a true sense of whether or not you are people who should stay together.

Additionally, it'* a wise idea to do a self examination and try to gauge if you're being selfish with your time. Make sure there'* a balance of seeing your girlfriend and taking time for yourself. If the balance is skewed in either direction on a regular basis, consider altering your habits.

deep thread.




anyway, I just let my wife know about a day (or more, depending on the work) ahead of time what I'm doing with the car and how long it'll take. that works out well for us.

My EX girlfiend didn't like my bonnie.....

i recently broke up with my G/F due to somethin like this
she claimed i was spending to much time with my friends and if not that i spent to much time on my ride. she also hated when i hung out with other women wether or not those other women had boyfriends or not. she said i couldnt drink i couldnt go to college parties and this list goes on...
on the 4th of july she decided to say no to the plans me and the guys had set 2 months earlier
so if she is that demanding and theres no compromise then its time to walk over to bonne and dont look back