It'* not that I'm offended about the advice, or lack thereof in my opinion. I feel as if he was telling me what to do and I don't like that. That was more/less of a statement on his part. But: Maybe you haven't heard alot of stories, then.. I've had 3 girls I've met from myspace and xanga, all three turned out okay. This past one, was a little rocky, but relationship is broken up, and we're now friends. I'm not offended by his 'advice' but rather how he'* treated me in the past which fills over into this right now.

I couldn't agree more. One of my best female friends whom I met just after january of '05 was a girl who I liked, (friend wise) and we met finally in July of '05 and I must say, the girl kept me from doing alot of stupid **** to myself, and helped me through ALOT of stuff. She only lives one town over, too. Her mom doesn't like me for one fact, the school I go to (which is because I was fighting, which is why i'm in there..) And I wouldn't ever hit a woman, and I'm responsible, and I don't do stupid **** like drinking, or drugs, or anything.. and I think usually before I do something.. and her mom knows all of that, therefore, her parents both are comfortable with the fact that I hang out with their daughter (who just turned 17 on the 30th of this past month)and totally off subject.. and my parents think me and her should've had a relationship. Me and her both think we're better as friends. We hang out 5-6 times a month now (we both work, she has two jobs.. trying to get a car, haha) and I'm glad I met her. I don't know where I'd be w/o her.

You guys haven't heard the other experiences, I've only spoken of one. I am the same online, I'm hyper, happy go lucky, and I am really nice. Yes, I've been told all of this, also. I message someone first and intro myself, and state why Im messaging them. I tell also if they want to message back they can, but i won't be pissed if they don't really. Usually, they're nice and they do. I somewhat agree with your post though.

I couldn't agree more on this.. it was dead on.

What about stuff like this Eharmony.com thing? That matches people up and they meet, usually they end up keeping a relationship going.. Hahah In my opinion, anything can happen. I don't know what else to say though. .

IMO Eharomny just shows the best relationships and the people they can get on TV. Yes I tried them as well and I did not have any success. Eric, I was in your shoes here a couple of months ago right before I left GA to come up here (the 3 day relationship). If you want the story, I'll be more than happy to post it. Kudso on telling her how you feel instead of holding out on her.

Whats the story

Oh boy well a friend of mine that I worked with, his wifes' friend was coming down to Ga to visit (from MN). She was single and the two of them tried to hook the two of us up. Anywho, we went on a couple of dates, the second date got second base and it was a fun night. Now, I believe it to me a majority of my fault that I was leading her on heaviliy. We went waaaayyyy to far on a second date, too far and I was getting caught up in it. I don't date hardley at all so when I do, moter nature kink in to high gear. She flew back to MN and we continued to talk. She got the impression that I wanted a relationship and I was what she was looking for, but all that I had to offer her was physical attraction and nothing more. She told me how she felt for me and it about killed me to tell her, "i'm sorry, but I do not feel the same for you". I hope the mess of word did make some sence.

Yeah, but Eharmony is a little different then Myspace, etc.. Granted, I'm not a supporter of the site, or think it does wonders or anything, but it isn't Myspace either.

But, no matter how offended you got by it, I still think my brother had a point and I agree. And for every one awesome story of how people met online there'* another few about things that went badly. Most people aren't the same online as they are in the real world. But what I really wonder is why you'd want to meet people online, or as your main source of meeting people? Go out and meet people in real life, go hang out in coffee shops, book stores, any freaking store. It makes things alot less complicated. Sure you run into a few creeps out there, but at least you know people and can get an actual first impression.

I like to get out and hangout. The coffee shop, not really my place but if it does it for ya, more power to ya. I agree that people can "mask" themselfs online and they do but people do it in real life as well. Plus if your on a dating website or personals your seeing people with the same goal in mind. This discussion will go on forever . I prefer to go out and meet someone in person, but if I do it online I can cruise the BC as well.

There is a huge difference IMHO between getting to know someone online through talking for awhile, then meeting them inreal life then meeting someone online, talking to them for 3 days and giving them the impression that you are in love with them.

Just a hypothetical example: Say you met someone online, talked to them online for about 3 days or so and decided to meet up. Then when you meet up, you form a physical connection with them and give them the impression you are in love with them. Talking online with someone for a short period of time does not constitute a relationship. (Please note this is just a hypothetical example made up in my head, the characters in this story are not real.)

While we are at it, I have an example from my own life. I am on facebook, and while browsing around on there one day I recognized someone from one of my classes the previous semester, and she just happened to be in one of my classes in the current semester. I added her as a friend even though I had only said one sentence to her ever in real life. I knew she would recognize me though. She confirmed me, and one day she sent me an IM over AIM. We talked and talked for a couple months, finally she asked if I would come sit next to her in class the next day. I complied. Before you knew it we started hanging out outside of class and talking on AIM all the time. I "knew her" for 3 months before we ever did anything in real life. When we did start hanging out, I started learning things about her that I never would have learned online, and quite frankly they deeply disappointed me. She smokes, smokes weed, drinks several times a week (age 19), drives like a mad woman, and is involved with people who act in ways that are quite contrary to my ethics.

The key in the quote that I have above is 4 years. Just like dating in real life, the longer you are with them the more the truth about them comes out. Still, there are many things that will not come up when talking online, some of these things are quite serious and can have a dramatic effect on your opinion of someone.

This thread sooooo reminds me of Kipp in Napolean Dynamite. I laughed out loud when I finally realized why this thread was humorous to me.

gee, my monitor is now wearing pepsi! thanks..

[quote="Custom88"]This thread sooooo reminds me of Kipp in Napolean Dynamite. I laughed out loud when I finally realized why this thread was humorous to me.


You're just jealous because me and eric95se have been chatting online with hot babes ALL DAY