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yea...I was trying to keep it car related last night, but Mike'* posts usualy end up being therapy sessions... Lol...
Speaking of which... Mike...yo...dude... she owes you $12k... you can
1) take her to court and try to get your stuff
2) sell all of the stuff in storage and put it towards what she owes you
3) walk away
Personally, I wouldn't give her a damned thing out of storage...in fact, I'd learn how to sell stuff on Ebay right-quick.
Frank...you don't need therapy... you need a vacation!
Speaking of which... Mike...yo...dude... she owes you $12k... you can
1) take her to court and try to get your stuff
2) sell all of the stuff in storage and put it towards what she owes you
3) walk away
Personally, I wouldn't give her a damned thing out of storage...in fact, I'd learn how to sell stuff on Ebay right-quick.
Frank...you don't need therapy... you need a vacation!
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Mike is obviously too nice a guy to take his ex to court. Knowing this, my advice is simply:
(1) In general, consider the $12,000 a write-off. Nice bonus if you ever see any of it. But don't expect to, that would be kidding yourself. Be okay with walking away. Freedom is worth well more than $12,000. Although $12,000 buys a really nice used Bonneville. Or two.
(2) If you have her stuff, or mutually-owned stuff, just keep the stuff until/unless you see any part of the $12,000. This would be considered fair to any reasonable judge, not that you're likely to ever go before one over this.
(3) If the stuff is costing you anything for storage, then yes, you should seriously consider selling the stuff to offset what she owes you, but if it ever comes to that, at least give her an opportunity to pay you before you sell her stuff.
Perhaps the most important thing I've learned in life, is that when life gives you the opportunity to take the high road or the low road, you should always take the high road. You'll never have any regrets that way. Sounds like you're doing the nice guy thing, and that'* good. If she doesn't need her stuff and you don't need the $12,000, you can keep the status-quo. But by all means sign the title of the white Bonny over to her though, there'* too many bad things that can happen if you're still the owner of it if it isn't properly handled when ultimately junkyarded. It'* free, you just fill it out, sign it, and send part of it to your state. Gets it out of your hair.
Case in point: My old Bonneville (beloved, missed 1978 coupe) was in good running shape, but was my old, third car, and was just costing me money each year in registration and insurance. Then a friend of mine was on hard times, going through a divorce, and his ex wife got their car. He needed some safe, reliable wheels to take his daughter to school, and to get to and from work. He asked me if he could borrow the Bonny, and I said "Sure!" -I was actually glad to have someone who needed a car drive it. Several months later, the transmission died. I split the cost of a rebuild with my friend. A year later I was still paying the registration and insurance on it. Finally I signed the title over to him and got the costs of it off my back. Another mutual friend of ours got a new truck and sold him his used 1990'* Saturn for a very low price, so my friend began driving the Saturn and parked the Bonny. Some time later a guy knocked on his door, wanted the Bonny. My friend signed it over to him. Some time later we both got a notice that it had been towed for being illegally parked and was to be sold at auction to collect over $450 of impound and towing fees. All known owners of record were sent a notification, so that'* why we both got a copy of the notice. Had this car still been in my name, I could have been held responsible for all costs associated with it. Take my advice and get it out of your ownership!
(1) In general, consider the $12,000 a write-off. Nice bonus if you ever see any of it. But don't expect to, that would be kidding yourself. Be okay with walking away. Freedom is worth well more than $12,000. Although $12,000 buys a really nice used Bonneville. Or two.
(2) If you have her stuff, or mutually-owned stuff, just keep the stuff until/unless you see any part of the $12,000. This would be considered fair to any reasonable judge, not that you're likely to ever go before one over this.
(3) If the stuff is costing you anything for storage, then yes, you should seriously consider selling the stuff to offset what she owes you, but if it ever comes to that, at least give her an opportunity to pay you before you sell her stuff.
Perhaps the most important thing I've learned in life, is that when life gives you the opportunity to take the high road or the low road, you should always take the high road. You'll never have any regrets that way. Sounds like you're doing the nice guy thing, and that'* good. If she doesn't need her stuff and you don't need the $12,000, you can keep the status-quo. But by all means sign the title of the white Bonny over to her though, there'* too many bad things that can happen if you're still the owner of it if it isn't properly handled when ultimately junkyarded. It'* free, you just fill it out, sign it, and send part of it to your state. Gets it out of your hair.
Case in point: My old Bonneville (beloved, missed 1978 coupe) was in good running shape, but was my old, third car, and was just costing me money each year in registration and insurance. Then a friend of mine was on hard times, going through a divorce, and his ex wife got their car. He needed some safe, reliable wheels to take his daughter to school, and to get to and from work. He asked me if he could borrow the Bonny, and I said "Sure!" -I was actually glad to have someone who needed a car drive it. Several months later, the transmission died. I split the cost of a rebuild with my friend. A year later I was still paying the registration and insurance on it. Finally I signed the title over to him and got the costs of it off my back. Another mutual friend of ours got a new truck and sold him his used 1990'* Saturn for a very low price, so my friend began driving the Saturn and parked the Bonny. Some time later a guy knocked on his door, wanted the Bonny. My friend signed it over to him. Some time later we both got a notice that it had been towed for being illegally parked and was to be sold at auction to collect over $450 of impound and towing fees. All known owners of record were sent a notification, so that'* why we both got a copy of the notice. Had this car still been in my name, I could have been held responsible for all costs associated with it. Take my advice and get it out of your ownership!
; she'll enforce it and THAT should solve the 'Nut-up" problem too.
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I knew from the day we broke up that I would never see the 12,000$. Doesn't mean I can't try to get it. As for the stuff, well she did pay for a good portion of it but it was the cost of supporting her over the last 3 years is what she wanted to repay me for.
As for the therapy sessions, I just wanted to let everyone know the current fate of the car. I am more than happy with the current status in my life, gf wise. As for the ex, like I said I talk to her less and less each week, maybe once a week if that. She is starting to realise that I am helping her less and less each time she asks.
As for the therapy sessions, I just wanted to let everyone know the current fate of the car. I am more than happy with the current status in my life, gf wise. As for the ex, like I said I talk to her less and less each week, maybe once a week if that. She is starting to realise that I am helping her less and less each time she asks.
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Hey, she actually signed papers saying she owes you. That gives you REAL legal grounds & rights. Should you persue action in court then she'll also get the message that it'* really really over, and she'll actually have to begin paying you back too.
... but that'* your decision to make, I just wanted to point out the option. fwiw, It'd be a tuff one for me to make if I were in your shoes.
... but that'* your decision to make, I just wanted to point out the option. fwiw, It'd be a tuff one for me to make if I were in your shoes.
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In Ontario, you can win in small claims court, unfortunatly collecting the money is a whole new issue. She could also claim personal bankrupcy, depending on her situation.
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Originally Posted by Maymybonneliveforever
In Ontario, you can win in small claims court, unfortunatly collecting the money is a whole new issue. She could also claim personal bankrupcy, depending on her situation.