Originally Posted by L27Buick
i tryed to tell y dad something like what u said to do but he said its his day too becase his forst born son it getting married and blah blah. my dad like to use guilt trips to get his way they used to work on me till i grew up he still tryes but i just look past them.
That'* him being selfish, IMHO. It'* not his day.... it'* yours. You are the one getting married, he is a special guest you are inviting. Sure, he'* the father. I'm not trying to downplay that, but it'* all about YOUR commitment to YOUR wife, for the rest of YOUR life. You need to put your wife to be and any children you have first. If your dad keeps up the manipulation it will continue and he will continue to have a negative effect on your marriage.
We are to honor and respect our parents. I'm not saying to be disrespectful, but to lovingly, but firmly, let him know you and your bride'* to be'* plans and desires. It'* your call. Take a stand, or let him keep up the use of guilt to keep you under his control. Some parents don't learn to let go. It'* hard for them. Now, as a father, I think I can understand some of the grief as if you are losing your baby boy or girl. Others, are simply about control. It'* this situation that can get a bit rough, but you must, as the man of your house to be, be strong for your family without being dishonorable in your actions. That would make you just as wrong.
Hey, it'* just my opinion. I just hope your day is special and your future is blessed.