last night @ 2:15 am i logged into my account with myspace after about a month of not logging on.
and i usally dont go on myspace alot at all. maybe once or twice a month if that.

os anyway i log on and check my mail to see if my sister or cousin wrote to me and i have a message with a subject that states,

" hey john this is an Ooold friend can you guess who.? LoL"

so i'm like what the "bleep", who the "bleep" is this.. so i click open message and i begun to read and the first sentence was exactly like this word for word.

" wow its been 5 years since we been to the club and broke night together "

so right there i knew who it was as i only went clubbing with the person that taught me how to dance spanish and reggae. ( my ex girlfriend ) so my heart just stopped and skipped a beat. i could not believe what i was reading and most of all who it was from.

o.k ill go back 5 yrs ago.

me and this girl (tanya) had to seperate from each other because her mom was a maniac and treated this girl like cinderella. always beat her, punished her, made her to embarissing things like wash her mom'* dirty under pants while i was there.. this girl had it hard.. well we were deeply inlove and talking about marrige and moving intogether as we were together for 4 yrs. from age 17-21 yrs old. when we were both 21 yrs old is when her mom threw her out of the house. so she was forced to move back to peurto rico with her real dad.

it was the worst thing ever for the both of us as like i said we were together for 4 yrs and planning tpo get married and move in together.. we never argued or fought about anything at all.. we were perfect like soul mate'*..
then when the day came for her to leave she cried and passed out from being so upset about having to leave each other like that.. so she went to peurto rico and that was the last time i heard from her untill last night...
and to be honest i am happily marrried with 2 wonderful kids., but for some reason its like that email she sent me on myspace opened something up inside me.

i did not get no sleep last night at all.. i was tossing and turning and never got my mind off of her.. it was torture man.. and then when i finally fell asleep for an nhour or so before the sun came up all i could do was dream about her....

o.k ya'll here is the big one.. in that email she also asked me this,

" and yeah when can we see each other and hang out as i moved back to n.y about 6 month'* ago as me and my mom worked out our differences"

what should i do :?:

i am completly dumbfounded by all of this and have no clue how to even go about this situation popping up like this after 5 yrs of not speaking to each other.. :?:

o.k guys i really need some help here.....

Go see her, as a friend, bring your wife and children so she can meet them and see that you're happily married. Just don't think of it as starting another relationship or something

First thing'* first, you have to tell her NOW, that you are married and have moved on.
Do it tastefully, of course, but you can't let it go any further without that out there.
Also, let your wife know, RIGHT NOW, and ask her opinion/advice about how to let her down easy.

1st off, this is one of the reasons myspace is evil, but that isn't the argument here

Tell your wife, then I would inform her that you had moved on to wife and kids. Whether by message or in person. And don't let it get ya down

Edit:After reading my response, I should have just said

x2

Sorry :(

I wouldn't meet up with her honestly. This can open a huge can of worms. Trust me, I'm a girl

Tell her nicely in a EMAIL that your happily married with children. And although your happy she worked things out with her Mom, and she'* back....it would be best if she didn't contact you anymore.

And lastly.....Tell your wife about it. Don't hide it from her.

no nothing like that at all.. like i said im happly married for 5 yrs now.....

im just at a complete brain fart with no words

when i replied back to her email i made sure i added i was married and had 2 wonderful kids...

im not worried about myself, (my wife is more then i could ever ask for) its just i have no clue how she is about it or if she just wants to be friends and see what became of each other'* life... nothing wrong with a friend as long as my wife is there.
(which she is with me every where i go anyway)

so should i really let her know not to contact me anymore or should i see if all she wants is to say hi.?

i dont want to hurt her feelings if all she wants is to do is become friends and is over everything.....

You can NEVER be friends with old girlfriends as long as you are married!
Don't even think about it! Trust me, I am a very understanding wife, It will cause problems.

" i hate myspace.com, its about to get me in alot of trouble"


Only if you let it.


If you love your wife and are truly happy you should not even have to post this situation here. Reply the the ex tell her you are married and wish her the best.