I would recommend that this feature either be changed, or the chat room be taken down. As for myself, I will not be in the chat room until a Admin has told me this issue has been resolved, so if you see JimmyFloyd in there, it is not me.
I am sorry you were subject to this immature behavior. While I am not willing to take the chat room down yet, I do believe I have solved the problem. See my posting in the chat room topic sticky.
I just read that and would like to say thank you. I think that what you have stated will solve the issue I was having and will restore my faith in the chat room. I feel it is a wonderful thing to have for the site, it just started to get out of hand. Thanks again.