finally. It turned out to be the wires...the guy who was doing it said he wanted to change plugs and wires, even though I told him the plugs were new, nad i was looking at like $300
so he said other than both pick one: plugs or wires it'* one or the other take your pick. and he wanted me to do plugs. Then he told me spark plug wires only last about 5 years, then we checked them, and they were the original ones.
So he changed them, and now it runs smooth as butter again. It'* so nice to drive down the road and not feel like you are driving a mustang or honda