Guys: What do you do to show your wife that your treasure her? That you love her, and are glad you married her? ( Besides taking her for a ride in the Bonnie !!)

Ladies: What really matters to you? What is it that your husband or other does that shows you he cares and adores you, and his relationship with you is important?

Common: What kind of things do you do to keep the relationship, er, alive and healthy?

G ratings only please. We need to respect the fact we have young ones here. Plus this could be a good point to let them see real romance and corting. ( I must of got hit in the head or something, I sound like Dr Phil.)

What really makes me feel special is when my husband makes time for me, even when he has something important going on. He'* a really busy guy, but he has been very good about dropping whatever he'* doing, no matter how important, if I need to talk or something. He also goes out of his way to tell me when he is thinking about me. A lot of men seem to just assume we know that they think about us a lot, but we don't. There'* nothing sweeter than a guy turning to you in the middle of doing something (in my husband'* case, grading papers usually) and just saying that he was thinking about you and loves you, is proud of you, is lucky to have you, etc.

And the things we do to keep our marriage healthy (it wasn't always, and we're going to make darn sure we keep it that way now) are never going to bed angry (everyone says that, but it'* true so it bears repeating), always finding common ground to talk about or common things to do (it is so easy to grow apart if you don't come up with things to do together besides sitting across the dinner table or staring at the TV), and sharing our religion. The last one is the most important to us and has done more for our relationship than any other thing. We pray together every night, for our needs, our relationship, our family and friends, and our world. We go to church together and share many religious discussions/debates. And we pray separately for patience, trust, honesty, and a bond of love that will never be broken.

Love...that is the key. And I am not refferring to that feeling in your heart or stomach when you fall for someone. Have you ever read those Bible verses on love printed on lots of posters and such? "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres". You don't have to be religious to realize the value of those verses...I know many of you aren't, but don't let that blind you to an important piece of advice, and please don't be offended that I wrote it here. It'* just that if each one of us always stuck to that, and treated love as a verb (meaning that to love is to act in all the ways in that verse) instead of a noun ("love" as an emotion...a feeling), there would never be a need for divorce.

So this not the Romance Web. I thought you guys would have something to say. Or is this restricted car talk for ya'll.

Hey, Im NO Romeo. That'* why I posted this. I have been married for 14 years and still need to learn what to do. Lately its been like, " dating, what'* that?" because of school and all. So I was just wondering what all you succesfull men were doing out there to keep your wife on the up and up.

Is everyone fixing to divorce or something? Ya can't have good relationship with your car. ( Well maybe ya can on second thought, they don't talk back, they don't cry, they do cost alot though.) No No No. Just kidding.

Any how. Lets hear for the girl that responded. YEAH GIRL !!!!!!! Come on guys don't be showed up now.

Oh bye the way. What she wrote is gooood stuff. Please don't ban me

Hailey: you have very good points in what you posted. very nicely written also.

james tharp: I wouldn't worry about being banned. If this thread keeps its general direction as of right now it would be a good "guidance" thread for the many of us on here that are currently dating and someday in the future going to be getting married. It is actually nice to read the advice of those who have gone through what some of us will go through in the future.

I'm surprised more guys haven't responded...I know there are a lot of sensitive and very nice guys on this forum that could offer advice (on romance at the very least). You don't have to be married to have some good advice on making your significant other feel special.

Oh, and one more piece of advice along the lines of romance. Never underestimate the power of surprise. Every once in a while do something small on the spur of the moment like buying her something for no reason, or bringing her out for a nice dinner...we love that stuff. And when you have the time and money, plan something really big to sweep her off her feet...a special night out maybe. You could call her boss and get her a day off she thought she had to work, and then have tickets ready for a show (and I don't mean a movie...I'm talking about broadway or something). Have a nice dress of hers laid out on the bed when she gets out of the shower and tell her to put it on because you are taking her somewhere nice. If you really want to go over the top, have a limo, or a really nice rental car (like a mercedes or something) ready to take her there. That'* just one idea, but you get the picture and can come up with your own. It'* just nice every now and then to have the one you love do something really special for you...she'd remember it the rest of her life.

Bets advice I can give is "Don't look to me for help"...

I think the only reason my wife is still with me is because she feels sorry for me...

Hmmm...I guess I should have said, "Never underestimate the power of pity".

This thread is along the same lines, done not too long ago:

http://www.bonnevilleclub.com/forum/...ic.php?t=27344

You'll see my responses in there (too lazy to type now!).

I was sent a pm asking me to respond to this.

I have no idea what guys want. I only know what I like and what I'd want but I just can't seem to find a guy that fits the description.

I like a guy to joke around with (I have a very playful nature), someone to watch football, boxing, as well as comedies. I like a guy that likes to go fishing & camping. I like a guy who doesn't bitch all the time cuz I don't and I don't want to hear it from someone else. I like a guy who isn't scared to apologize if he'* wrong because I am woman enough to admit when I am wrong. I like hugs & kisses just because. I am happy with a wildflower picked cuz he had me on his mind. The simple things mean the most. I don't need $$ cuz it don't impress me. I don't need a man to financially support me cuz I do that myself. I want a partner- someone to share the good times with as well as the bad times. My philosophy is: If you ain't there for the bad times who the hell needs ya for the good times!!

My idea of romance is: nice music playing (Enigma is my favorite to set the mood), candles lit and being able to do just about whatever I want to my partner .