will the 02 bonneville 17x 7.5 rims fit my 93 se ?

Yes.

Yes. As will any wheel with the 114.3x5/115x5 bolt configuration.

I've got the 02 SSEi 5-spokes on mine.

The 114.3x5 isn't a perfect fit. At least use hub-centric rings if you plan on running any other bolt spacing than original, no matter how close the spacing may seem to you.

I have Park Ave from 06 on mine, the rub with 225-55-17 so watch that only on turn, I am switching going to some sporty 18, yeah