That'* a heck of a lot better than $46. I already picked it up. We'll see what I can figure out before I install it. At this point I'd rather have a reliable car than $40.
I gave them a quick rundown of the situation and they mentioned the only other thing they thought it could be besides the relay was the ignition switch. They said it'* common for the wires to come loose near where they connect to the actual switch and short on the metal, which may or may not throw a security light. This would prevent the remote start from completing the circuit as well. OK that seems reasonable especially since I have the remote started hooked into them, but I don't think it would be so stable during the day if it were a short.
I actually did try shifting in and out of park the first time it did it and start in neutral with no luck. The latest time I just shifted out of park and back in. Neither seemed to affect the situation.