believe it or not it was something completely stupid.
I always have my lights on auto. well they turned them off auto and had them on the lowest you can go. So during the day you wouldnt notice. My sons friend noticed last night after we got home that my lights were on but very very dimly ( we were home before dusk so he noticed hours later when he went outside for a smoke.) so he went and checked and found my lights were not on auto any more.
Boy do I feel stupid.. but its something I never thought of because i always have them on auto.
thanks for the input