thanks Bill for all your troubleshooting, and all those times I called you when you didnt answer what so you could hear my engine running
extra thanks to Archon for his suggestion!
turns out it just needed the simple security relean because of the reburned PCM
here is a video of a startup after the initial start with all the smoke burning off the headers
i took the car for a drive around my gravel road with no seat
its VERY loud because I need plug an exhaust leak. the pacesetter 3" to 2.5" adapter comes with a bung hole for an o2, but I didnt need one there, so I need to plug that