Somewhere around 22 or so, I forgot I was getting older. I don't feel
like I'm well past that, nor do I act like it. And apparently, I don't look
like it, either. Just last night, we went to go see a Tool cover band at a sports bar, and the guy at the door actually asked to see my ID on the way in. That took me a little by surprise.
I don't really go to bars, on account of the fact I hate alcohol, so I haven't been in a situation that required carding very often at all since 21. I guess I was just expecting that it would look obvious by now that I'm well over 21. Must be all the make up.
Originally Posted by NERV
I just found out that one of my friends is engaged. Where does the time go? I still remember back when every boy thought, "Ew, girls." Then, in middle schoola and high school, casual girlfriends. Late high school and the time between graduation and college, serious girlfriends. Now engagement, before I know it everyone will be getting married. I suppose 20 years isn't a long time, but it definitely feels like it.
I past the 20 marker quite some time ago, and I've had a great many friends slip into this situation. It doesn't make me feel old at all. It just makes me feel sorry for them because they're not strong enough to say "she isn't right for me, I should end this and wait for the right one", instead of "oh well, this is probably the best I can do, even though I'm only in my early/mid 20'*". It'* just another example of how insecure we can get. We're in such a hurry to "check off" another item on the "to do" list of life in order to feel adequate, or validated, that we often rush into bad, or rash decisions. There'* a reason the divorce rate is ridiculously high. Today, a person meets someone, fights with them more often than they get along, but due to having a thing or two in common, con themselves into believing they'r in love with each other. Somehow, this is often times enough grounds to get married. Problem with that
is, when things finally fall apart to the point that they don't want to be around each other anymore, they need a divorce, where as if they were dating for those few years, it would have just been a break-up. In other words, marriage has become today'* form of dating.
Point is, don't sweat it. The fact that your friends are getting married isn't a sign that you're
getting old. It'* a sign that they're
getting into things they're too young for.