my dilemma
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my dilemma
so heres my dilemma:
we have three TV'* in our house. one in the dining room/living room (whatever), one in our bedroom, and one in the "kids" room (no, we dont have a kid. but its where we put everything for kids that we get). the one in the kids room doesnt quite work (im going to fix it, but im lazy).
today is nancys birthday. we had our evening planned, we went out to eat, shopping (i was an angel - offered my opinions whenever possible and carried her stuff like a good puppet), and so on, then came home. we were going to spend the evening playing a game together. a computer game, but time together nonetheless (her choice of activities, not mine). when we got home, there was a message on our answering machine from a mutual friend that wanted to come over and play another computer game. she immediately called him and said yes, come on over, and spend the night. so now theyre in the computer room playing this game (Guild Wars) which i dont enjoy. i have a laptop, though. i can go into the room with them and lay beside her in the floor and do whatever on the laptop. just to keep myself around so were still spending time together. but should i?
i make decisions every day, and its my job as her fiance to try to predict as well as possible how every decision i make will affect her. and if i stay in the living room, im making the decision to watch the TV instead of be with her. but i dont want to be in the way. its possible that shes tired of me and thats why she immediately took him up on his offer to play guild wars. Or, its possible she just wanted to play guild wars. so thats my dilemma.
we have three TV'* in our house. one in the dining room/living room (whatever), one in our bedroom, and one in the "kids" room (no, we dont have a kid. but its where we put everything for kids that we get). the one in the kids room doesnt quite work (im going to fix it, but im lazy).
today is nancys birthday. we had our evening planned, we went out to eat, shopping (i was an angel - offered my opinions whenever possible and carried her stuff like a good puppet), and so on, then came home. we were going to spend the evening playing a game together. a computer game, but time together nonetheless (her choice of activities, not mine). when we got home, there was a message on our answering machine from a mutual friend that wanted to come over and play another computer game. she immediately called him and said yes, come on over, and spend the night. so now theyre in the computer room playing this game (Guild Wars) which i dont enjoy. i have a laptop, though. i can go into the room with them and lay beside her in the floor and do whatever on the laptop. just to keep myself around so were still spending time together. but should i?
i make decisions every day, and its my job as her fiance to try to predict as well as possible how every decision i make will affect her. and if i stay in the living room, im making the decision to watch the TV instead of be with her. but i dont want to be in the way. its possible that shes tired of me and thats why she immediately took him up on his offer to play guild wars. Or, its possible she just wanted to play guild wars. so thats my dilemma.
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I'd just go sit in there and do something on the laptop. Just go in there and see what she does. If she keeps playing the game, just sit there and let her play, if not, go w/the flow.
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she values her space. i dont know if this is a space issue or if its a "i want to play guild wars" non-issue. i could ask, but that would resolve the issue quickly and make me get up.
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If she preempted an intimate evening with you, to play guildwars, ......... Please don't go into the room and sit there while they are totally engrossed in the game, that'* kind of pathetic.
If it'* her house, find a apartment and move out.
If it'* your house, tell her she has a month to find an apartment.
If you both own the house, put the house up for sale. then split the proceeds.
Besides being each other'* favorite hump, you have to be each other'* best friend, too. The passive-aggressive manuver she pulled, you don't do to your best friend.
And never ever believe that getting married will change anything.
If it'* her house, find a apartment and move out.
If it'* your house, tell her she has a month to find an apartment.
If you both own the house, put the house up for sale. then split the proceeds.
Besides being each other'* favorite hump, you have to be each other'* best friend, too. The passive-aggressive manuver she pulled, you don't do to your best friend.
And never ever believe that getting married will change anything.
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Originally Posted by jwakamud
she values her space. i dont know if this is a space issue or if its a "i want to play guild wars" non-issue. i could ask, but that would resolve the issue quickly and make me get up.
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Originally Posted by 94SSEgold
Dont stress over it. Just do your own thing. You can be in the same room on the laptop doing your thing and can still keep an eye on the guy playing games with your woman. You have to be your own man and do your own thing. You guys can't spend 24/7 together. I think it may just be that she wanted to play this other game and she might figure that she dragged you all over the mall and just wanted to give you a rest.
oh, and thanks for the input charlie. i can see that we would get along just fine. (no sarcasm)
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