Sorry for bothering you guys about my issues, but this **** HURTS!!!!!!! I'll try not to do it again.

Its ok..under the circumstance we can understand, its just we also need to look out for your best interests in the best way we can

For anyone else, they probably would have been over it by now, but for me, since November 2002, I still can't get over it when she said she just want to be my friend. I knew then it won't be long before she spoke divorce. I still hurt from it. I tried talking to other women and all I say to myself is that she won't treat me like my ex. If they have a cell phone and we are out and someone call, tthey would have a conversation with that person on the line. My ex, she would either cut the phone of or cut the conversation REAL SHORT! She would give the person she is with her undivided attention. I don't know any other female like her. We would talk on the phone for hours and if the phone beeeped she wouldn't answer the phone unless it was family. I miss that!

I agree with the stop drinking part, it can't help now, not real help, just short term help, and that doesn't help. I try to think of it this way, it happened, it happened for a reason, and there are over 3 billion other fish in the sea.... If it wasn't working it probably will never work. I don't wanna sound harsh but hey you did what you had to at the time, and that'* that. Maybe it'* setting you up to meet someone even better?

I'd like to see this day come, now doesn't seem like anything is good in my life. My car is ******* up, I still stay at home, no jobs called me back yet and when I call them I always get we aren't hiring, laying off, we have a lot of applications to look at and we'll get to yours soon. All this BS. I am goofy and quiet. At times I wonder why she even been with me. I don't know. I have no life. Hate yto say it but why do u think I am on here all day long?

You saying us post ****** have no lives?? We plant our *** here too, and we have lives

Going back in time will obviously never work so don't cry over spilled milk ( cliche I know.. seems to be a few of those.. ) you at least realize what you MAY have done wrong and how to better yourself in the process.. you'll never learn a lesson without experiencing it. IT sucks to be JUST FRIENDS routine.. it'* way too hard when I had to go through mine.. and I severed the ties instead since it makes the mendin of yourself much easier and faster ( even though it may not feel like it ) IT'* up to you whether you want to stay friends or not.. and trying to look **** hot to attract women isn't going to make it any better.. with my incident.. I had chicks flock to me then ( but sure enough.. that'* when I don't want any part of any women/relationship .. always happens that way.. when you're lookin .. they're not there.. when you're not lookin.. they flock to you like they know )

Drinkin will not solve it.. just hide it.. and sooner or later you still need to deal with it.. I don't care if it'* not manly or not.. but in situations like that.. a good cry or 2 helps ease it and makes you move on..

I've been having this crying bid for the past 8 months now. THat didn't help none.

I'm sure it helped a lil.. it made you feel a lil better then to let it out.. made you tired so you can sleep better.. but best advice is to keep yourself busy and everytime you think of her.. realize that you are.. and STOP.. think of something else and keep yourself active.. go read in the library on books bout whatever interest you if you must.. dwellin in it will only prolong the pain and suffering

I hope this time I can actually stay focused on my life. I just always thought that the longer you know someone the closer u get to them. I guess y situation is different.

The more you know of the person doesn't really mean the closer you would be.. lil pet peave things from the start may escalate into something worse ( everyone has a limit to their patience ) and the longer you know someone.. the more decisive you can be on whether this person is right or not as you know more and more about them.. kinda like Yin and Yeng affect.. it can make it stronger and better or worse..

You have the right mind set.. WORRY ABOUT YOURSELF and FOCUS ON YOUR LIFE into helpin you move on