YOU GOT IT!!!

man that is FUCKED UP!!! you gotta get a bat stungun or some thing if he comes back make sure he leaves with some marks of his own! thats the way i look at it i have no faith in the law aswell. When i was young i was punched in the face by a 27year old and i was 12 and the cops tried to charge me and every since then i have had no faith in them

Sounds like the cops have tried to do thier jobs. It'* the court system that seems to be failing.... "Oh, his dad is a lawyer? Well, let'* see what we can do....."

All the cops can do is make arrests, which will happen if you get caught with a bat. It'* up to the courts to take it from there

If you are serious about being friends with this girl, you gotta push the criminal law aspect, and get her to as well. If you're not both willing, then you may just have to explain to her (and yourself) that it'* just not worth having some psycho ex hunting you down....

and she wants this loser in her child'* life why? he will do the same thing to the child sooner rather than later he needs to be out of their life once and for all . this guy will end up hurting or killing some one more than likely the child unintentionally . ever hear of shaken baby syndrome? for the sake of the baby get her to read this and beg her to get the restraining order .

As haro said, forget the girl. Move on man, it isn't worth it....

No trial? Then the verdict is vendetta.

On what grounds did the judge dismiss the charges? My guess is the lawyer pitched it as a love triangle, domestic disturbance. This is a catchall for cases a judge doesn't want to try. Keep in mind that since the DA'* office let this slide, they are no friend of yours.

First, take those recordings and the police report and file for a restraining order. In some states the filing can be done without legal assistance. You may need a couple hours of lawyer time. Whether you get it or not is immaterial. the important thing is that you have filed.

Next, there is at least one law firm in your town who hates this lawyer father of the assailant. If he is a lawyer he is probably involved in local politics. Take a copy of the police report and any photos of you in disrepair to the firm. Make sure the law firm is the opposite political party of the lawyer father. The law firm will take a civil action on contingency. just make it clear you can't sleep very well and it'* effecting work and everything. You are upset about what the assailant might do, because he has already done it once.

They will take it from there.

FWIW

I wasn't able to hear the voicemails but I have an idea of what he probably said. This stuff gets me so heated up!!

You would have no problem winning a civil lawsuit against this punk, but I would do as others have suggested and fight it in the criminal court. This guy has a dirty record and it sounds like his dad is dumb enough to get him out of trouble than to be an actual father and teach him a lesson. He needs to be locked up BIG TIME!

The fact that they have a kid together would be the determining factor for me to end things with her, even if things weren't beyond friendship. I doubt the guy would be willing to believe you are strictly friends. If I were in your situation, part of me would want to hang out with her and not give in, but after being assualted by him once, I would rather protect myself than risk getting hurt worse.

I think this girl need a serious wake-up call. I've dealt with the ex-boyfriends of my last two ex-g/fs. Girls always seem to stick to these scumbags.

I'd definitely carry a baseball bat in the car though. Or any other kind of protection. You have the police report, so if you ever end up beating him with a bat in self-defense, you should be justified IMO.

Good luck with this. And don't be afraid to call a local news station! I did for a situation I am in and it was WELL worth it. But yours is much more serious, and the fact he seems to be getting off the hook from family and friends in the court system is not right! You obviously don't want to slander anyone, but you won't have to to make this guy look bad, and the judge. I'd just have proof of his friendship with his dad...somehow.

Appeal ftw. Present those voicemail recordings as evidence.

She'* a lost cause in denial. You will never have anything intimate with her, sadly, you must move on.

Cheers,

This kinda crap ain't right. Unfortuneatly history tells you SHE needs some mental help. Yes her, an abused women, which she is, who won't stand up for herself, or can't is in need of help. (he needs help too.. like a cattle prod to the *****) You need to get the restraining order and then restrain yourself from going near her or we will be reading about you in the paper. Something to the effect of "Man kills ex, boyfriend and self" splattered across your local paper. The guy isn't going to stop abusing her and obviously it is escalating. By hanging around her your asking for it. Tell her if she ever looses this guy she'* welcome but until then LATER.

i dont know that i agree with this. if you follow the first comment that she cant/wont stand up for herself, and then tell her "later" until she leaves him, arent you condemning her? try to help, even if you get hurt in the process -- unless your help is unwanted.

my after-school-special advice and critique.