Originally Posted by All Things GXP
So I ask you this and I am assuming that you lived with your parents before you went to school. Would you have rather grown up a minority and poor and got financial aid or grown up the way that you did?
all this is really beside the point. but since i opened pandoras box, ill respond then ill ask that further comments along this vein be directed at me via pms. im not opposed to the discussion, but thats not what this thread is about.
i lived with my mom until i was 16. my father and mother divorced when i was 2, leaving my mother a single parent without a HS degree [or even GED] raising two kids without any financial support. she did so, and how she did so is beyond me. im amazed by her and have nothing but the utmost respect for her and what she went through.
we WERE poor. in addition, the community i grew up in, i WAS the minority. ill never know what its like to grow up black in america any more than ill know what its like to have gills, but i do know what its like to grow up in poverty and to be part of a minority.
Originally Posted by agrazela
The silver lining is you've got a woman who'* still willing to marry your sorry, whimpering a$$
agreed. a lot of truth is said in jest.
as to whether or not im being open and honest with her about the situation, i am. her first reaction was to tell me to drop out of school until finances get settled down and she gets a job -- then go back to school. i flat out refuse to do that. once she saw how important school was to me (most evident in my conversations re: selling my car; she knows how much i love my car), she is encouraging me to take out more loans to cover the cost of tuition.
i dont want to do that, for reasons already stated. im looking for a magical third alternative, but its not showing up. as the weeks go by, im coming more to the conclusion that selling my car, taking on more loans, and getting a job tutoring part-time on campus might be the best alternative i have left.