Babying is for the SLE. My 291K mile SSEi, when I put it back together, will probably be "driven mad."
But I don't mind taking it apart. We've already taken apart most of the engine'* top part, and I guess it should soon be time to get to the timing chain on the side. Not too bad at all once you have an engine crane and stand. Of course, this is extremely off topic because we're talking about helping the car last a long time.
So, to the SLE:
Though I drive the SSEi like a granny falling asleep until the engine warms up, we let the SLE sit for at least most of its warming up. Then, we drive it slowly. Rarely does it rev or get past 3200 RPM. It has moderate shift points, but I'd like to have it shift even below 3000. It has both highway miles and city miles, but we change the oil quite frequently, use good filters, flush the transmission, and use a brand name, non-Dex coolant. The engine bay is kept clean as well so that no heat builds up seemingly irregularly. If you detail your engine bay with engine degreaser, that'll leave a slimy film on top of the engine. Be sure to wash that off.