update; using the starter is the only way to loosen that balancer bolt. worked great with breaker bar.
went from, no crank no start, to crank no start.
okay I change out the icm and was able to get car started and it would run till it got to 187 degrees and it would shut down. After cooling down it would run again till it reached 187 then shut down. Was able to slowly get car home this way.
changed out the crank sensor and it has gone through a few heat cycles without shutting down, so I believe this is fixed. I hope.lol
I did learn to use a breaker bar and bump the starter to loosen the crank bolt.
I would like to thank all for the help an hints to get through this.