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Rubbing alcohol will not hurt it, but what method did you use to agitate the dirt? You should treat those small filaments as if they were being held on by gravity alone. There are a few ways to clean them properly, but the cheapest way is to dip a cotton swab (q-tip) into Isopropyl Alcohol, preferably 70% or more, and very, VERY gently, using a rubbing-twisting motion, clean the filaments. Do not touch them with your fingers or anything that could get lint on them.
Reinstallation the reverse of removal.
A bad MAF sensor should not keep a car from starting when UNPLUGGED. But if receiving a reading from it that is WAY off scale, there is a very high possibility that the car will not run at all. I have personally experienced this.
If you can start it, with the sensor disconnected, let it idle for a minute, then plug the sensor back in. Record results. If it sputters, chokes, stalls and throws another SES light, you need to replace that sensor.
Unfortunately, they're not cheap, and they're year and engine specific. Your best bet would be to find one in a wrecking yard, but you have to verify the model number on top of the sensor with the one already in the car.
Coolant in your intake manifold? Or the throttle body.
Replaced your UIM and LIM gaskets? You don't have a UIM. Are you sure you have an SSEi?
Starter fluid? Where did you put it?! These engines are fully computer controlled, if it doesn't start, something major in the link is missing electronically.