so for some reason I can't get the light to wiggle/shake come loose at all from the little holder back in the fender. I don't know how hard I can pull before I break something but I was pulling hard enough to get the car to move back and forth. any ideas to get this thing out
As I recall from what I've read here (I haven't done it personally) keeping the headlamp as level as possible, pull sharply straight back. It'* a ball and socket design, and fits snuggly. Some have said warming the plastic there a little with a heat gun (careful not to melt the plastic) or hair dryer makes it easier to remove.