I just checked one of my plugs, all the way on the left of the front side of the car and it has oil on it. i will try to post a pic in a few minutes. the black stuff you see is oil, but it seemed to dry up soon after i removed the plugs

An easy way to get coolant out of the block is to remove the knock sensors. At least do the front one to drain most of it.

Series 1 only has one knock sensor, but that'* a good idea.

im still confused as to what i should be doing. should i be driving with no coolant? the only place i NEED to drive is to work and its a 10-15 minute trip down the highway.
I had a sears mechanic friend of mine look at it and there was oil deposits on the engine underneath the throttle body. he said because of thats its probably the manifold gasket.
i appreciate your guys input and hopefully i will be able to get this resovled soon.

OIl in the cylinder basically points at a blown head gasket. The manifolds don't get oil (well they shouldn't be) but the cylinder head does. You're best bet is to have them all replaced i think.

Every mile you drive with coolant in the oil can be taking away hundreds if not thousands of miles on the remaining life of your car.

You're not driving. At least not that car. Time to tear it down and figure out what went.

i just got the word from my pops to drive it till it dies. the only thing thats in good shape is the body. the steering is messed up and the suspension isnt doing to well either. it wouldnt be worth it to put prolly almost 1000$ into that car when its only worth about 1000$. i know thats not what you guys want to hear but i think its what im gonna have to do.
is there anything i can do to delay the death besides major repairs? right now it drives just fine. idles a little rough sometimes and the oil pressure is slightly above normal until it warms up.

That'* ridiculous. Killing a car with life and potential? You're only talking about $200 in seals and gaskets. Maybe $250 tops with new head bolts.

for real??? what about labor charges? would i be able to do this myself?

of course you can. i am not very car smart when it comes to repairs, but when my engine blew me and my grandpa replaced it by just using the Chiltons Manual! It is kinda time consuming but a Saturday should get it done for ya! Bonne'* are good cars and will last a long time depending how well they were taken care of. Mine wasnt very well taken care of and i had to put some serious money in mine but it is a very good car and i plan on my next car being a bonne also!!! GOod luck and let us know how it goes!!!