Ok the side to side play was the new-ish inner tie rod end. So much for 'Built to last' Duralast..LOL. At least its a lifetime warranty. Its brans new and tight once again. Drivers side is still original and fine after 160kMiles. Maybe they should rename it to Dura-crap
I took apart the front brakes to clean & regrease them. I found some rust flakes had gotten behind the rotor and one of the slide pins had siezed on the passenger side and one slide pin had siezed on the drivers side. I replaced all the slide pins. I did have some build up of pad marterial in the vertical shaft that runs up the middle of the pad; soo for those of you with ceramic pads you might want to clean yours every once in a while.
Went to the back brakes and WOW there was alot of rust & brake dust build up. Cleaned and readjusted them.
Rotated the tires while the car was in the air too.
Took it for a testdrive! Much better now. Just had to play with the alignment because of the new tie rod.
So i think that the vibration was from the not-true rotor due to the rust flakes and the grinding was from the excessive dust in the rears.
So. spending 5 hrs in 95 degree weather, sweating my buns off, and fixing the wifes car for under $15 ($10 for slide pins and $3 for brakekleen) sure gives you the warm fuzzy fellings inside...nah. It doesn't. It was just the heat & humidity.