O, so some things seen to have been figured out.
1) there appears to be a leak at the UIM(shoudl explain the coolant loss)
2)my valve cover on the front side was a little loose(would explain the oil useage) snugged that up and hopefully it will be good.
3) dad wasnt sure but he says he put in motor oil. looking at the shelves where all the fluids are kept, sure enough ATF and motor oil are right next to each other, and both the ATF and the motor oil for my car are both in dark red, one quart bottles, so it seems like it would be very easy for him to have mixed them up, specially if he wasnt wearing his glasses(all to common an issue)
so I guess now, with the UIM leak, will it be an issue, or can i just keep re filling the coolant when it gets low? if it is an issue, what goes into fixing it?