I finaly found the relay. I bought a Hayes repair manual but it sucks. It didn't specify where the relay is located but showed a picture of the engine compartment where you described. There'* only one relay in that location and it did not have the same color wires and didn't test like a FPR. I found a website that has online service manuals: http://www.alldatadiy.com/
. I subscribed for $25 and immediately had access to the vehicle information. Within the information is a "location" tab. This told me that the fuel pump relay is located in the relay center under the glove box.
The good news is thet the relay was bad. I'm now getting voltage to the tank after replacing it. The bad news is that the fuel pump is too.